Episode 125 From Inner Critic to Inner Advocate: Embracing Kindness Over Criticism In this episode of "Your Inner Advocate," host Kimen Petersen explores the theme of self-compassion, especially for high achievers and those who tend to be hard on themselves. Kimen shares personal stories and insights about the dangers of relentless self-criticism, the origins of our inner critic, and the importance of replacing harshness with kindness. The episode encourages listeners to recognize that they are always doing their best with the knowledge and resources they have at any given moment. Kimen offers practical advice and affirmations for shifting from self-judgment to self-encouragement, emphasizing that true growth and fulfillment come from compassion, not criticism. The episode closes with a gentle challenge to practice daily self-kindness and to build an internal advocate that supports a life of authenticity and joy. = 00:00 – 00:40 — Introduction to the podcast and its mission. 00:41 – 01:57 — The core message: Stop being so hard on yourself; you’re always doing your best. 01:58 – 03:19 — Understanding that your best varies day to day; wisdom is doing better when you know better. 03:20 – 04:04 — The pitfalls of using self-criticism as a motivator; short-term gains vs. long-term costs. 04:05 – 05:38 — The alternative: coaching yourself with kindness and turning the inner critic into an inner coach. 05:39 – 07:19 — How family and upbringing shape our self-talk; evolving from inherited patterns of tough love. 07:20 – 09:45 — The automatic nature of the inner critic and the power to choose self-compassion over self-judgment. 09:46 – 13:23 — Personal stories of overcoming self-loathing, learning from dyslexia, and shifting from shame to encouragement. 13:24 – 15:10 — The importance of reframing challenges as lessons and using them to fuel growth. 15:11 – 17:10 — Practical advice: treat yourself as you would a close friend, defend against negative self-talk, and practice daily affirmations. 17:11 – 19:35 — Closing thoughts: the impact of self-love on your life and relationships, and a final encouragement to lighten up on yourself. 19:36 – End — Outro, call to action, and gratitude for listeners.