Episode 115 Stop Peeling: Escaping the Endless Cycle of Self-Improvement Podcast Episode Summary In this episode of "Your Inner Advocate," Kimen Petersen explores the pitfalls of the self-help journey, using the metaphor of peeling back the layers of an onion. Kimen shares his personal story of hitting rock bottom, diving into self-improvement, and eventually realizing that the endless pursuit of fixing oneself can become a trap. Through anecdotes, quotes, and practical advice, he encourages listeners to embrace imperfection, live in the present, and trust that true freedom comes not from constant self-fixing, but from living fully and accepting oneself as whole—even with all the layers still intact. Timeline Summary 00:00 – 01:00Introduction to the podcast and its purpose; Kimen sets the stage for the episode’s theme. 01:00 – 03:00The “onion” metaphor: the endless cycle of self-improvement and peeling back layers. 03:00 – 07:00Kimen’s personal rock bottom: struggles with depression, anxiety, and self-defeating thoughts. 07:00 – 12:00The self-help journey begins: books, seminars, and lifestyle changes. 12:00 – 16:00Progress and setbacks: learning about the ego, inner critic, and the pattern of always finding new problems to fix. 16:00 – 20:00The realization: freedom is found in living, not in endless fixing; shifting perspective to embrace life as it is. 20:00 – 25:00The Curiosity Practice: using curiosity instead of reactivity to process triggers and emotions. 25:00 – 30:00Childhood memories and formative experiences: understanding the roots of feeling “not important enough.” 30:00 – 35:00Forgiveness and self-compassion: practical exercises for healing and letting go. 35:00 – EndFinal insights: stop making healing your identity, live in the present, and remember you were never broken. Closing thoughts and call to action.