Embracing Communication and Vulnerability in Marriage In a recent episode of the "Young, Dumb, and Love" podcast, hosts Brittany and Julian offer a raw and honest look into their 19-year marriage. Their discussion is a treasure trove of insights, focusing on the crucial aspects of communication, vulnerability, and growth within a long-term relationship. Overcoming Communication Barriers A major highlight of their conversation is the significance of effective communication. Julian reflects on how, early in their marriage, he often struggled to truly listen to Brittany. Instead, he would try to "fix" her problems, missing the mark on what she actually needed. The podcast has been a turning point for Julian, helping him learn to communicate more openly and understand Brittany’s perspective better. “I’ve learned how to communicate with my words better with you. And so, like, before we did the podcast, I could communicate, but it would you would have to ask me. Now because we talk so much, I think that what it’s done is opened my mind to be able to go and communicate to you more and more periodically.” Embracing Vulnerability and Growth Another important lesson from their discussion is the value of vulnerability and personal growth. Julian admits that admitting when he’s wrong has been a tough but crucial part of their journey. Overcoming the fear of failure and disappointment has allowed him to grow and strengthen their relationship. “It’s hard for me to admit that I’m wrong because I feel like it’s a fail and I’m scared to fail because I don’t want to disappoint you. So, yes, it’s hard to admit that I’m wrong because I feel like I’m a failure and it just goes down a big huge pile of doo doo and it’s just not good.” Navigating the Ups and Downs of Marriage Brittany and Julian also talk about the dynamic nature of their relationship, acknowledging that marriage involves both highs and lows. They stress the importance of flexibility and adaptability, especially when life changes, such as starting a family, bring new responsibilities and challenges. “When kids get into your life, everything changes. And so when that does happen, you have to be ready and willing to be flexible with each other.” Rejecting Harmful Marriage Myths The couple also tackles some common marriage myths, such as the idea that there is a “honeymoon phase” or that one partner should make all the major decisions. They reject these outdated notions, advocating for a partnership based on mutual respect and shared decision-making. “One of the worst pieces of advice I’ve ever been given was that I make all of the main decisions and you need to just follow me. Where, now that I’ve learned the hard way, we are a team side by side and we have to make decisions together.” Embracing the "Lit" Life Despite the hurdles, Brittany and Julian’s love life remains vibrant. Julian’s playful description of their relationship as “Lit” highlights the importance of keeping fun and passion alive, even in a long-term commitment. Conclusion Brittany and Julian’s candid discussion provides a valuable perspective on the realities of marriage. Their experiences underscore the importance of effective communication, vulnerability, and a willingness to grow. Their journey serves as an inspiring example for couples striving to build and maintain a strong, lasting relationship.