178. Understanding Interpersonal Narcissism and Envy in the Workplace with Dr. Nathalie Martinek

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You Must Be Some Kind of Therapist

Stephanie Winn

184 episodes

4 days ago

You Must Be Some Kind of Therapist intimately explores the human experience while critiquing the state of the counseling profession as it yields to cultural madness. Your host, Stephanie Winn, distills years of wisdom gained from her practice as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist as she pivots away from treating patients, and toward the question of how to apply psychology to the novel dilemmas of the 21st century. What does ethical mental health care look like in a normless age, as our moral compasses spin in search of true north? How can therapists treat patients under pressure to affirm everything from the notion of gender identity to assisted suicide? Stephanie invites heretical, free-thinking guests from many walks of life, including current and former therapists, medical professionals, writers, researchers, and people with unique lived experience, such as detransitioners. Curious about many things, Stephanie’s interdisciplinary psychological lens investigates challenging social issues and inspires transformation in the self, relationships, and society. Pick up a torch to illuminate the dark night and join us on this journey through the inner wilderness. *ISSUES LISTENING ON SPOTIFY* - If you notice some episodes missing from Spotify, you can find them on any other platform. New episodes are released every Monday, and all are present in numerical order, so you should always see an episode that has been released within the past week, followed by episodes in descending numerical order without any missing numbers. Spotify has a backwards and archaic system for flagging copyrighted content for removal. This podcast has a license to use its theme song, Half Awake by Joey Pecoraro, but Spotify's system keeps removing it anyway, and demands that podcast creators manually appeal the removal for every episode. This is obviously ridiculous. Spotify needs to get it together.

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178. Understanding Interpersonal Narcissism and Envy in the Workplace with Dr. Nathalie Martinek

You Must Be Some Kind of Therapist

1 hour 35 minutes

1 month ago

178. Understanding Interpersonal Narcissism and Envy in the Workplace with Dr. Nathalie Martinek

In this episode, I have the pleasure of speaking with Dr. Nathalie Martinek, a former developmental biologist turned expert on narcissism and toxic workplace dynamics. We delve into the complexities of interpersonal narcissism, exploring how our behaviors often stem from a desire to preserve our ideal self-image. Nathalie shares her journey from the world of science to understanding human behavior, highlighting the parallels between toxic workplace cultures and the biological concepts she once studied.

We discuss the often-overlooked role of envy in our interactions, particularly in professional settings. Nathalie emphasizes that envy is a natural human emotion, but it can lead to destructive behaviors when we allow it to dictate our perceptions of others. We explore how feelings of inferiority can trigger envy, prompting us to undermine those we perceive as superior. This conversation invites listeners to reflect on their own experiences with envy and shame, encouraging a deeper understanding of how these emotions influence our relationships.

Throughout our discussion, we aim to answer critical questions: How do cultural differences shape our perceptions of self and others? What role does shame play in our interactions? And how can we cultivate a healthier relationship with our emotions to foster more authentic connections? Join us as we unpack these themes and seek to understand the underlying drivers of our behavior in both personal and professional contexts.

Nathalie Martinek, PhD, helps professionals build relational leadership capacity and navigate the subtle power dynamics that shape trust, connection, and harm at work. She coaches individuals to shift dysfunctional relational patterns, facilitates group spaces for reflection, and consults on how to make sense of workplace dysfunction. A former developmental biologist, she studied how environments shape behaviour and enable dysfunction.

links:

Substack: www.hackingnarcissism.com

website: www.drnathaliemartinek.com

books: www.drnathaliemartinek.com/books

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nathalie-martinek/

00:00 Start

[00:02:12] Transition from biology to narcissism.

[00:07:18] Unspoken cultural influences on behavior.

[00:10:04] Tall poppy syndrome explained.

[00:12:40] Superiority and inferiority dynamics.

[00:16:13] Interpersonal narcissism and behavior.

[00:21:07] Shame as a moral emotion.

[00:25:36] Moral injury and external expectations.

[00:28:20] Cultural values and self-awareness.

[00:32:16] Toxic envy and emotional maturity.

[00:35:29] Emotion as neutral states.

[00:40:16] Purpose of envy and innovation.

[00:43:12] The struggle with self-identity.

[00:49:43] Covert envy and recognition.

[00:52:23] Envy in professional relationships.

[00:55:42] Covert envy and validation.

[00:59:01] Knowledge theft and plagiarism.

[01:03:11] Idea appropriation and originality.

[01:09:44] Authority and envy in academia.

[01:12:03] Parasocial relationships and dynamics.

[01:17:00] Fear of insignificance on social media.

[01:18:36] Online presence self-reflection.

[01:25:13] Relational interpersonal narcissism.

[01:28:17] Relational intelligence and group dynamics.

[01:31:54] Human nature and group dynamics.

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