In this very personal episode, I share my intimate experience with two shadow archetypes that shaped my life from age six: the Fixer and the Caregiver.

I explore how these protective patterns develop in childhood—often through being thrust into adult roles too early—and why they persist into adulthood even when they no longer serve us. You'll discover the subtle but crucial differences between these two archetypes, how to recognize when you're operating from shadow versus integrated expression, and why awareness alone isn't enough to break these deeply ingrained cycles.

I also share practical guidance on building the muscle of conscious choice: from noticing patterns after the fact, to catching yourself mid-moment, to eventually choosing different responses before the pattern fully activates.

This episode is essential listening if you've ever wondered why you struggle to let others experience natural consequences, why you scan every room for threats to harmony, or why you can't seem to stop putting everyone else's needs before your own.

Join me for the next Illuminate Your Shadows meditation circle on Friday, October 24th at 7pm (in-person in Annapolis or virtual). We'll go deeper into transforming these specific archetypes. Space is limited! Reserve your mat here.

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