”Sadly, this is what we are seeing in young girls and children today - a complete dependence on external validation and affirmation.” Jane Dutton was in conversation with human potential and parenting expert, Nikki Bush. Would your daughter rather be hot than smart? If she does, it’s probably because the first comment she hears when she meets people concern her looks, her hair and what she is wearing. Let’s not forget the social media generation is all about posting the perfect look and getting likes and follows because of it. Girls are being trained to look for external affirmation and validation from all quarters and we need to make sure we see girls and women as way more than just their outward appearance. Seek to discover the essence of every human being you encounter, woman or man, girl or boy. This is who they are, what makes them tick, what they value, what interests them, what they are good at, their opinions, their experiences and so much more. ”Hello you beautiful woman!” can refer to way more than just a body, but to an entire being who is made up of so many different and interesting facets.