TikTok star Drew Afualo joins Nicole to share her enemies‑to‑lovers love story and the worst dates that taught her to trust her gut. She tells the time she dated a man who drank ocean water and ended up getting his stomach pumped, walks through her viral list of red flags in men, and the backlash she received online for sharing it. They dig into the male loneliness epidemic, red‑pill culture, and what we can learn from the dating on Love On The Spectrum. Plus, Nicole tells the time she accidentally went on a beach date with a 60‑year‑old comedian, and the story of how banana bread uncovered an affair. Watch this episode here: https://youtu.be/mM7FvATy35g Write Nicole a dirty message! Send it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com with the subject line "Dirty Message" and Nicole may read it in a future episode. Support this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors: » Quince: Treat your closet to a little summer glow-up with Quince. Go to Quince.com/dateme for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. » Equip: To learn more about Equip's virtual eating disorder treatment, visit Equip.Health/dateme » BetterHelp: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/DATEME and get on your way to being your best self. View all of our sponsors and discounts codes at wwydm.notion.site/sponsors. Follow: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod  Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.