We laugh about being recovering people pleasers, but where do those tendencies come from? Are we born this way or did we learn to people please as a safety mechanism? In today's episode, Kim speaks openly about events in her younger years that led her to become a people pleaser and how this was reinforced at work. If you've ever wondered why you're motivated to do or say things that appeal to others but aren't necessarily true to you, this is a must listen.   Trigger warning: domestic violence is discussed. This episode may not be appropriate for younger listeners.   HIGHLIGHTS How understanding trauma can lead to personal growth Why the career ladder validates people pleasing How to say, think, and act with more authenticity and personal alignment The role of writing in uncovering people pleasing habits How to trust yourself when you aren't sure if that will be accepted   FOLLOW  Kim on Instagram @kimwensel Kim's website MENTIONS Join The Bench waitlist! The Tell by Amy Griffin