It is the word ‘Dare’ in the new book by Dalia Feldheim, ‘Dare To Lead Like a Girl’ that is the most provocative. What does that mean? How do Girls Lead? They show up, they play hard and they win! But they do it somewhat differently than most men and therein lies the lessons for all of us.
In our 35 minute conversation, Dalia talks about some of the science and research behind why women have a different emotional reaction to anger and other triggers in the workplace than men do. The story continues and covers why men are more prone to get into action and fix things while women are more skilled at just sitting and listening before action. Sound familiar? Dalia also shares facts and possible solutions for the alarming drop in empathy from college graduates, new entrants to the workforce and many of us in the workplace today. When it comes to inspirational as well as functional leadership, there’s a lot men can learn from women and Dalia shares ways we can all gain from each other to build strong and more resilient organizations.
Episode Highlights:
[02:46] Dalia shares credit for the successful #LikeAGirl marketing campaign with all of the marketing directors, but her inspiration came from the women of India and a girl she saw using light from passing cars to read outside at night.
[03:46] She also shares a sad story about an in-home visit in India where a girl on her period was treated as unclean. Dalia was so disturbed by the experience that she wanted to do something about it.
[05:39] Dalia has a passion for women's empowerment and wanted to use the P & G brand voice to talk about these issues. This is when they came up with the "Touch the Pickle" campaign.
[06:50] #PlayLikeAGirl turned an insult into a women's empowerment icon. It's important to use our voice to better the world no matter what business we're in.
[08:35] In Dare to Lead Like a Girl, there are the five P's of leadership. The last two are people and positivity.
[09:36] Emotional bravery is about accepting that emotions are part of being human and bringing emotions to the workplace in an appropriate way.
[11:20] Women have a tendency to sit with empathy longer than men. Men revert to problem-solving much faster.
[13:35] Only 7% of our message is actually driven by what we say. 93% is how we say it. We need to share emotions in a way that doesn't completely overwhelm.
[15:40] A trick for having more empathy by listening more or thinking about how listen equals silence. Leaders and parents need to create space not fill it.
[17:26] In leadership training, we learn soft skills which are actually strengths. Data shows that EQ is responsible for 66% of success as managers and 85% as leaders.
[21:36] Seven countries led by women leaders had better outcomes during the pandemic than countries led by men. With our changing environment, we need more historically female qualities like empathy and teamwork.
[25:46] Dare to Lead Like a Girl isn't about masculine or feminine. It's about all of us connecting with traits that have been historically feminine.
[28:13] After Dalia's TED Talk, she received many calls and reactions. She even received a call from a man in Australia who said he was a bully and seeking advice.
[29:05] Love is always stronger than fear. When you operate with love, the results are always ten times stronger.
[33:33] Dalia is on a mission to help leaders have better people skills.
[34:09] Uppiness is a game that celebrates Dalia's leadership course.
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