What happens when you stop defaulting to “the script” and follow your real desires—even if they lead you from monogamy to ENM… and then to celibacy? Writer and desire-explorer Jay House joins Gwyn for a candid, nuanced journey through identity, intimacy, and integrity. Jay traces her path from straight, monogamous marriage to embracing polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, and kink—and why she’s now in a six-month celibacy container to cultivate emotional and nervous-system sobriety. Together they unpack non-romantic but deeply intimate spiritual partnerships, how clear boundaries can make kink non-sexual, and why integration (not more courses) is the missing step in real growth. You’ll hear about: Getting honest about desire and letting labels evolve over time Redefining connection: intimate spiritual partnerships beyond “friends” or “lovers” Jay’s celibacy experiment: rules, edge cases, and staying accountable Integration > accumulation: applying BDSM, shamanic kink, and tantra learnings to real life Knowing your parts (hello, Cranky Baby) for clearer communication and healthier relationships Connect with Jay: Substack: https://futuristphilospher.substack.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jaylamarhouse Resources mentioned: Mama Gena: https://mamagenas.com/ Kasia Urbaniak: https://www.kasiaurbaniak.com/ Shamanic Kink: https://www.shamanickink.com/ Barbara Carrellas’ Urban Tantra Professionals Training: https://barbaracarrellas.com/ Om Rupani: https://www.omrupani.com/ The Five Personality Types (Stephen Kessler): https://the5personalitypatterns.com/ If you’re rethinking relationship defaults—and craving more sovereignty, clarity, and joy—this episode is a loving nudge to design intimacy on your terms.