In Episode 25 of "What Did I Say?" hosted by Dan Rothenberg, presenting the second part of a three-part parenting seminar titled "Do's and Don'ts". With over a decade's experience working with teenagers and young adults, Dan shares his insights on parenting techniques that promote a healthier family dynamic. He encourages the use of logical, short-term consequences instead of emotionally charged ones, arguing that this helps young people learn more effectively. The episode also explores the importance of respecting a teenager's privacy and the negative impact of over-monitoring. Lastly, Dan advocates for allowing children to experience their emotions fully, asserting that it's a part of their emotional intelligence growth. Tune in for an insightful discussion on parenting.
Chapters
0:00 - Introduction and Welcome
0:20 - Overview of the Session
0:30 - Personal Experience as a Parent
0:40 - Do #1: Use Logical Consequences
1:00 - Explanation of Logical Consequences
1:30 - Example of a Logical Consequence
2:00 - Importance of Consistency
2:10 - Example of an Emotional Consequence
2:30 - Negative Effects of Uncertain Consequences
2:40 - Importance of Respect and Agency for Adolescents
3:10 - Concept of Short Term Consequences
3:30 - Notion of Control Over Kids
4:00 - Don't #1: Over-Monitoring Kids' Texts and Social Media
4:30 - Explanation for Not Monitoring Content
5:00 - Negative Effects of Invasion of Privacy
5:20 - Importance of Trust in Kids
5:30 - Effect of Mistrust on Motivation
6:00 - Importance of Approval from Parents
6:30 - Do #2: Allow Children to Feel their Feelings
7:10 - Distinction Between Feelings and Emotions
8:00 - Importance of Feeling Feelings
8:30 - Negative Effects of Diving into Anger
9:20 - Encouraging Room for Children's Feelings
9:30 - Misinterpretation of Allowing Feelings
9:50 - Difference Between Feelings and Emotions
10:10 - Negative Effects of Not Allowing Children to Feel
10:50 - Example of Expectations and Agendas
11:10 - Concluding Remarks
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