Divorce is emotional — but it’s also financial. We Chat Divorce helps you understand both.
Join hosts Karen Chellew and Catherine Shanahan, co-founders of My Divorce Solution, for expert divorce insights, real stories, and proven financial strategies that turn fear into focus, focus into knowledge, and knowledge into power.
Whether you’re just considering divorce, in the middle of it, or rebuilding after, you’ll learn how to protect your finances, make informed decisions, and move forward with clarity and confidence.
The #1 podcast for financial divorce preparation, empowerment, and real talk about money, marriage, and moving on.
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Divorce is emotional — but it’s also financial. We Chat Divorce helps you understand both.
Join hosts Karen Chellew and Catherine Shanahan, co-founders of My Divorce Solution, for expert divorce insights, real stories, and proven financial strategies that turn fear into focus, focus into knowledge, and knowledge into power.
Whether you’re just considering divorce, in the middle of it, or rebuilding after, you’ll learn how to protect your finances, make informed decisions, and move forward with clarity and confidence.
The #1 podcast for financial divorce preparation, empowerment, and real talk about money, marriage, and moving on.
Grief, Money, and Moving On: Taking Your Power Back in Divorce, with Virginia Gilbert
We Chat Divorce Podcast
38 minutes
2 months ago
Grief, Money, and Moving On: Taking Your Power Back in Divorce, with Virginia Gilbert
Divorce isn’t just a legal or financial process—it’s an emotional one. In this powerful episode, Karen and Catherine are joined by Virginia Gilbert, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and author of Transcending High Conflict Divorce, to talk about a topic most people don’t expect to encounter during divorce: grief.
Together, they explore:
The emotional toll of divorce grief—even if you’re the one initiating it
Why grief can leave you feeling financially stuck or frozen
The real reason some spouses feel guilt or shame about asking for financial clarity
How emotional reactivity can sabotage financial decisions
The pressure many women feel to hold on to the family home
The myths and realities of “nesting” after divorce
How to move from emotional reactivity to radical acceptance—and why it matters
Virginia also shares her own story of navigating a high-conflict divorce, how that experience reshaped her career, and why she believes divorce can be a transformative experience—if you're willing to do the inner work.
Divorce grief is real—and it’s not linear. Expect to cycle through denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and finally, acceptance (aka “DABDA”).
High-conflict dynamics often carry over from the marriage into the divorce. Learning to disengage emotionally is essential.
Financial empowerment starts with overcoming emotional roadblocks and becoming an active participant in your own decision-making.
Letting go of control, identity, or even the family home can be one of the hardest—but most liberating—parts of healing.
Radical acceptance doesn’t mean indifference. It means understanding what you can’t change and choosing how you’ll respond next.
About Our Guest:
Virginia is a licensed marriage and family therapist practicing in California, North Carolina, and Florida via telehealth. She specializes in helping people disengage from high-conflict exes and take their power back. She’s the author of Transcending High Conflict Divorce and leads therapeutic divorce groups for men and women navigating emotional entanglement and reactivity. Learn more: virginiagilbertmft.com
At My Divorce Solution, we help clients move from emotional overwhelm to financial clarity. If you're navigating divorce grief, remember: your healing starts with knowing. And your financial empowerment begins with preparation.
Explore the MDS Financial Portrait™, our verified divorce preparation tool, at MyDivorceSolution.com
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We Chat Divorce Podcast
Divorce is emotional — but it’s also financial. We Chat Divorce helps you understand both.
Join hosts Karen Chellew and Catherine Shanahan, co-founders of My Divorce Solution, for expert divorce insights, real stories, and proven financial strategies that turn fear into focus, focus into knowledge, and knowledge into power.
Whether you’re just considering divorce, in the middle of it, or rebuilding after, you’ll learn how to protect your finances, make informed decisions, and move forward with clarity and confidence.
The #1 podcast for financial divorce preparation, empowerment, and real talk about money, marriage, and moving on.