In this powerful episode of the Wake the F*ck Up podcast, Alix welcomes somatic trauma practitioner Steph Harland, who shares her deeply personal journey into trauma healing following the loss of her father to complications from an autoimmune disease. Steph opens up about how his passing inspired her to work with women suffering from similar chronic conditions by addressing the unresolved trauma that often manifests in the body. Their conversation lays the groundwork for understanding the physiological effects of trauma and how nervous system dysregulation can lead to illness.
The discussion moves into the emotional weight of grief and trauma, with both Alix and Steph reflecting on missed signs in their late loved ones. They explore the complex interplay between healing and loss, emphasizing that personal transformation often begins with awareness and a willingness to face difficult emotions.
A major focus of the episode is on the body’s role in storing trauma. Steph explains that talk therapy alone can’t resolve deeply embedded trauma because much of it resides in the nervous system and subconscious body responses. Techniques like somatic tracking, breathwork (including her favorite “buzz breath”), and body awareness exercises are explored as powerful tools for breaking free from the chronic 'freeze' state often seen in those with autoimmune issues.
Listeners are introduced to the concept of nervous system regulation through small, incremental practices that help rebuild trust and safety in the body. Steph and Alix share personal stories of how reconnecting with bodily sensations helped them heal, highlighting that the journey to joy can be just as challenging as navigating pain.
Finally, the episode turns to the impact of trauma on relationships. Both speakers candidly examine how past wounds shaped their relational patterns and how somatic healing has allowed them to develop more honest, secure connections. They close with a reminder of the value in learning from loss, forgiving oneself, and choosing new, healthier paths—personally, physically, and emotionally.
Resources:
Follow Steph on Instagram @feelslikehealing
Discover somatic resources on Steph’s website
Follow Wake on Instagram: @thewakewellness
Follow Alix Long on Instagram: @alixlongwinded
Download the WAKE app on the Apple App Store or Google Play Store.