I had a visceral reaction when a friend posted, "Lately I've been replacing my 'why is this happening to me?' with 'what is this trying to teach me?' and everything around me has changed."

There's is an inherent flaw in this way of thinking that centers the individual and imbues him/her with an almost magical sense of that "this" isn't suppose to happen to them. But it does because "this" befalls us all and we're not special in that regard. It's that sense of being special that prevents us from seeing reality as it actually is and, ultimately, holds us back.