In most cases, your child from difficult beginnings voice was silenced long before you ever met them. Their early cries for food, safety, and comfort went unanswered, wiring their nervous system to believe they were unwanted, unloved, and unimportant. Now, those silenced beginnings echo in your home—through endless chatter, meltdowns, shutdowns, or explosive behaviors—and through your own frustration, yelling, or even despair.
But there is hope. In this episode, Ce pulls back the curtain on how trauma shapes a child’s “voice,” how it collides with your nervous system, and why the key to healing isn’t lectures or consequences, but repetitive, everyday attunement. With wit, compassion, and practical stories from the trenches, Ce shows you how to stop taking it all so personally and start creating micro-moments of healing connection.Your child may have lost their voice before you ever came into their life, but in your care, that voice can be reborn. Healing takes time, repetition, and your steady presence—not perfection. Love matters.
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"Unmuted Love with Ce Eshelman" is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.
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