In this deeply personal and luminous conversation, Ce interviews Arleen Tyndall who opens her heart about the journey from performing perfection to embracing her humanness. From the outside, Arleen’s life looked polished and put-together, but underneath, she was carrying the weight of generations of pain, silence, and emotional disconnection.
Her awakening began in Bali, where she went to explore her ancestry and unexpectedly uncovered the buried stories of generational trauma that had been living inside her body and her family line. What she found there changed everything.
Arleen shares how confronting her lineage of generational violence and emotional repression allowed her to return home to Vancouver, BC, no longer repeating old patterns, but instead, living in full awareness and self-compassion. Through this transformation, she found peace not in perfection, but in permission—to be fully, messily human.
→ Check out Arleen's website for free resources and more brilliant insights - https://www.arleentyndall.com/gifts
→ Read The Perfectly Imperfect Family, the book Arleen co-authored - https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0F6VJ5BHJ
→ Check out this week's companion blog for more -- [INSERT LINK HERE]
From Ce Eshelman:
Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!
Read the companion blog -- https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/play-is-the-language-of-children
Additional Resources:
📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents by Ce Eshelman
✨ Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials
🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com
🧐 Check out my blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog
👉 Check out my Social:
🔹YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman
🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting
🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting
"Unmuted Love with Ce Eshelman" is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.
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In this episode, Ce Eshelman, LMFT, takes us on a heartfelt, humorous, and deeply healing journey through why play is the nervous system’s first language—and why adults need to learn it, too. Drawing on the wisdom of some of the great attachment thinkers and healers of our time--Dan Hughes, Bruce Perry, Dan Siegel, Kim Goulding, and Robyn Gobbel--Ce explores neuroscience, attachment wisdom, and personal honesty about play. She explores how play builds safety, attunement, and co-regulation, even for children (and parents) who didn’t grow up knowing how. Ce believes we can all break the generational silence of "Get out of my hair...go outside and play," by building fun, joyful, and playful relationships with our children.
Read the companion blog post: [BLOG LINK HERE]
From Ce Eshelman:
Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!
Read the companion blog -- https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/play-is-the-language-of-children
Additional Resources:
📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents by Ce Eshelman
✨ Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials
🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com
🧐 Check out my blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog
👉 Check out my Social:
🔹YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman
🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting
🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting
"Unmuted Love with Ce Eshelman" is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.
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Shame is sneaky. It hides in our nervous systems, whispers in our parenting ears, and if we’re not careful, it quietly (or not so quietly ) repeats from one generation to the next. In this episode of Unmuted Love, Ce shares some of her personal story about how shame gets passed down from our parents, through us, and into our kids from difficult beginnings—kids who are already extra-sensitive to shame.
Check out the companion blog post here --
From Ce Eshelman:
Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!
Read the companion blog -- https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/shame-is-not-your-family-heirloom
Additional Resources:
📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents by Ce Eshelman
✨ Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials
🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com
🧐 Check out my blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog
👉 Check out my Social:
🔹YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman
🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting
🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting
"Unmuted Love with Ce Eshelman" is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.
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Parenting a child from a difficult beginning is not for the faint of heart. And when the weight of blocked care, compassion fatigue, and plain old burnout slaps you down, it’s not because you’re weak or unloving—it’s because your nervous system is crispy. In this episode, Ce breaks down daily micro-moments of self-compassion—tiny pauses that keep your love alive in the middle of chaos. This episode is your permission slip to stop white-knuckling through.
From Ce Eshelman:
Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!
Read the companion blog -- https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/shame-is-not-your-family-heirloom
Additional Resources:
📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents by Ce Eshelman
✨ Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials
🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com
🧐 Check out my blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog
👉 Check out my Social:
🔹YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman
🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting
🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting
"Unmuted Love with Ce Eshelman" is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.
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You already know the five senses. Maybe even the sixth (proprioception) and seventh (vestibular). But what most parents never hear about until they’re tearing their hair out: the eighth sense—interoception.
In this episode, Ce takes you through real-life examples of interoception struggles (yep, you’ll be nodding along), explains why kids from difficult beginnings struggle most, and why a good occupational therapist can be a game-changer.
Resources & Links
Grab the Checklist for quick reference → https://start.lovemattersparenting.com/interoception
Read the blog post companion: When Your Child’s Body Keeps Secrets → https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/the-eighth-senseFrom Ce Eshelman:
Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!
Read the companion blog -- https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/shame-is-not-your-family-heirloom
Additional Resources:
📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents by Ce Eshelman
✨ Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials
🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com
🧐 Check out my blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog
👉 Check out my Social:
🔹YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman
🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting
🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting
"Unmuted Love with Ce Eshelman" is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.
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Does your child’s rage or rejection feel like it slices right through your chest? You’re not imagining it—it really does hurt. But often, that pain isn’t just about what’s happening in the moment. It’s an old wound—your wound—being reactivated.
In this episode of Unmuted Love, Ce unpacks the sneaky way your child’s trauma behaviors can poke at your deepest places of shame, rejection, and unworthiness—what psychology calls narcissistic wounding.
We’ll talk about:
You’ll walk away knowing how to spot your own “triggers” and how to step back into your compassionate self—even when it feels personal.
Because here’s the truth: when you heal these old wounds, you don’t just change your story—you change your child’s story, too.
Resources:
Parenting the Hurt Child by Gregory Keck & Regina Kupecky
Nurturing Adoptions: Creating Resilience After Neglect and Trauma by Deborah D. Gray
These are recommended for adoptive and foster caregivers to understand trauma's impact on child development and to build resilience-supportive homes.
The Primal Wound by Nancy Newton Verrier
Considered a seminal work exploring the emotional and identity-related wounds of adoptees, helping adoptive parents empathize with adoptees’ inner experiences.
From Ce Eshelman:
Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!
Read the companion blog -- https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/shame-is-not-your-family-heirloom
Additional Resources:
📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents by Ce Eshelman
✨ Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials
🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com
🧐 Check out my blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog
👉 Check out my Social:
🔹YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman
🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting
🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting
"Unmuted Love with Ce Eshelman" is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.
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In most cases, your child from difficult beginnings voice was silenced long before you ever met them. Their early cries for food, safety, and comfort went unanswered, wiring their nervous system to believe they were unwanted, unloved, and unimportant. Now, those silenced beginnings echo in your home—through endless chatter, meltdowns, shutdowns, or explosive behaviors—and through your own frustration, yelling, or even despair.
But there is hope. In this episode, Ce pulls back the curtain on how trauma shapes a child’s “voice,” how it collides with your nervous system, and why the key to healing isn’t lectures or consequences, but repetitive, everyday attunement. With wit, compassion, and practical stories from the trenches, Ce shows you how to stop taking it all so personally and start creating micro-moments of healing connection.Your child may have lost their voice before you ever came into their life, but in your care, that voice can be reborn. Healing takes time, repetition, and your steady presence—not perfection. Love matters.
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From Ce Eshelman:
Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!
Read the companion blog -- https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/shame-is-not-your-family-heirloom
Additional Resources:
📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents by Ce Eshelman
✨ Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials
🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com
🧐 Check out my blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog
👉 Check out my Social:
🔹YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman
🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting
🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting
"Unmuted Love with Ce Eshelman" is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.
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In this episode, presented at the Siskiyou County Office of Education Symposium in Weed, California, Ce gives a quick, brain-based “why” behind Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), better described as Complex Developmental Trauma, and how it plays out in real-life classroom dynamics. Teachers will want to listen to this.
Children who have experienced early trauma don’t walk into the classroom with a clean slate—they carry the invisible weight of broken trust, disrupted attachment, and survival-mode nervous systems. When those early experiences hardwire the brain for protection rather than connection, the resulting behaviors can look defiant, manipulative, oppositional… or just plain exhausting to manage.
From Ce Eshelman:
Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!
Read the companion blog -- https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/shame-is-not-your-family-heirloom
Additional Resources:
📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents by Ce Eshelman
✨ Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials
🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com
🧐 Check out my blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog
👉 Check out my Social:
🔹YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman
🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting
🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting
"Unmuted Love with Ce Eshelman" is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.
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In this episode of Unmuted Love, Ce Eshelman, LMFT, delves into the complexities of back-to-school anxiety, offering practical neuro hacks and strategies for parents and children alike. Learn effective techniques to help your child navigate their emotions. From exposure therapy to calming mantras, Ce provides a toolkit for fostering resilience and emotional strength. Tune in to empower your parenting journey and support your child's emotional well-being. #Parenting #AnxietyManagement #BackToSchool
From Ce Eshelman:
Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!
Read the companion blog -- https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/shame-is-not-your-family-heirloom
Additional Resources:
📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents by Ce Eshelman
✨ Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials
🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com
🧐 Check out my blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog
👉 Check out my Social:
🔹YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman
🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting
🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting
"Unmuted Love with Ce Eshelman" is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.
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Why do kids from difficult beginnings lie—sometimes all the time? Why does it feel so personal? And how can we as parents respond in ways that build connection and trust?
In this episode of Unmuted Love, Ce unpacks the survival-brain reasons behind lying, shares common patterns of trauma-driven lying, and gives practical scripts to help you respond with compassion and calm—even when your child’s stories are driving you bananas.
You’ll walk away with research, hope, tools, and a little more patience for your child and yourself.
Get the free printable Why Kids Lie cheat sheet here: https://payhip.com/b/kIYXc
Check out Ce’s blog on Lying here: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/lying-is-a-survival-skill
From Ce Eshelman:
Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!
Read the companion blog -- https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/shame-is-not-your-family-heirloom
Additional Resources:
📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents by Ce Eshelman
✨ Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials
🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com
🧐 Check out my blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog
👉 Check out my Social:
🔹YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman
🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting
🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting
"Unmuted Love with Ce Eshelman" is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.
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We’re picking up right where we left off last episode on Reactive Attachment Disorder—because once you’ve embraced the P.A.C.E. approach, the next step is building a family culture that can actually hold it all. In this episode, Ce gets practical about what it really takes to raise a child with a severe attachment injury: structure, supervision, belonging, and relentless compassion.
You’ll learn how to create a home that’s safe, respectful, fun, and predictable—even if your child is doing everything in their power to test it. From rituals and routines to supervision, regulation, and your own self-care (yes, it matters more than you think), this is the nitty-gritty of therapeutic parenting.
It’s not about behavior charts and sticker rewards—it’s about nervous system healing. And that healing starts with you.
From Ce Eshelman:
Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!
Read the companion blog -- https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/shame-is-not-your-family-heirloom
Additional Resources:
📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents by Ce Eshelman
✨ Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials
🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com
🧐 Check out my blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog
👉 Check out my Social:
🔹YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman
🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting
🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting
"Unmuted Love with Ce Eshelman" is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.
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Parenting a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder isn’t about trying harder—it’s about parenting differently. In this episode, Ce dives into what it truly means to be a secure base for children from very difficult beginnings. You’ll learn Dan Hughes' P.A.C.E. framework—Playfulness, Acceptance, Curiosity, Empathy—and why it’s the heart of healing.
Ce will unpack how attunement, emotional connection, and gentle persistence can rewire a child’s trust system, and how to show up in ways that say: you are safe, you are loved, you belong.
It’s not about getting it perfect—it’s about showing up with presence, over and over again.
From Ce Eshelman:
Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!
Read the companion blog -- https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/shame-is-not-your-family-heirloom
Additional Resources:
📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents by Ce Eshelman
✨ Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials
🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com
🧐 Check out my blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog
👉 Check out my Social:
🔹YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman
🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting
🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting
"Unmuted Love with Ce Eshelman" is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.
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So your child got a RAD diagnosis—now what? In this follow-up episode, we move beyond understanding and dive into the real-life strategies that make a difference. Ce shares practical, brain-savvy tools for parenting kids who push love away, challenge every limit, and need you most when they act like they don’t.
We’ll talk about attachment-focused, brain-based behavior management, daily routines that work, and how to survive the hard moments without losing yourself—or your child—in the chaos.
Parenting RAD is a marathon. You don’t have to run it alone.
From Ce Eshelman:
Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!
Read the companion blog -- https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/shame-is-not-your-family-heirloom
Additional Resources:
📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents by Ce Eshelman
✨ Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials
🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com
🧐 Check out my blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog
👉 Check out my Social:
🔹YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman
🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting
🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting
"Unmuted Love with Ce Eshelman" is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.
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When kids don’t get the consistent, nurturing care they need early in life, their ability to form healthy relationships can get wired all wrong. In this episode, we’re unpacking Reactive Attachment Disorder—what it is, what causes it, how it's diagnosed, and why early recognition can make all the difference.
If you're raising a child through adoption, foster care, or trauma, this is a must-listen primer on what might really be going on beneath the surface of those big behaviors. No blame. Just brain science, compassion, and clarity.
Let’s start the healing by understanding the root.
From Ce Eshelman:
Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!
Read the companion blog -- https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/shame-is-not-your-family-heirloom
Additional Resources:
📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents by Ce Eshelman
✨ Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials
🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com
🧐 Check out my blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog
👉 Check out my Social:
🔹YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman
🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting
🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting
"Unmuted Love with Ce Eshelman" is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.
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Today's episode is all about stepping out of the drama of playing various unhealthy roles inside ourselves and within our families. Ce briefly shares parts of the Karpman Drama Triangle and how replacing it with the Empowerment Triangle can save you from Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer behaviors in your family interactions. Stop the chaos by stepping out of the drama.
From Ce Eshelman:
Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!
Read the companion blog -- https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/shame-is-not-your-family-heirloom
Additional Resources:
📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents by Ce Eshelman
✨ Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials
🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com
🧐 Check out my blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog
👉 Check out my Social:
🔹YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman
🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting
🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting
"Unmuted Love with Ce Eshelman" is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.
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Everyone wants a magic cookie cutter intervention for stopping being hit by children who experienced trauma. Guess what, no magic solutions possible. There are some answers though. Self care for you and connection for them are paramount. In today's episode, When Love Hurts, Ce talks about some simple tips for dealing with this in a family setting and when your children are not teenagers. Take a listen.
From Ce Eshelman:
Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!
Read the companion blog -- https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/shame-is-not-your-family-heirloom
Additional Resources:
📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents by Ce Eshelman
✨ Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials
🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com
🧐 Check out my blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog
👉 Check out my Social:
🔹YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman
🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting
🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting
"Unmuted Love with Ce Eshelman" is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.
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In this episode, Ce tackles the often infuriating statements that come out of our children's mouths like: "I didn't do it," "I didn't take it," You never believe me," or the perfect accusation "You don't love me." Yes, children gaslight, too. In adults it is quite damaging. In children, gaslighting is an opportunity for parents to build their child's felt sense of safety. Listen to today's episode to find out ways of handling this defense mechanism the next time you hear, "You always think I'm lying."
From Ce Eshelman:
Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!
Read the companion blog -- https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/shame-is-not-your-family-heirloom
Additional Resources:
📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents by Ce Eshelman
✨ Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials
🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com
🧐 Check out my blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog
👉 Check out my Social:
🔹YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman
🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting
🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting
"Unmuted Love with Ce Eshelman" is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.
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Today Ce makes it easy to see how Adverse Childhood Experiences in a parent's life and their attachment style impacts parenting children from difficult beginnings.
Take the ACES test to find your score before you listen to this episode. You can take it here: acesaware.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/ACE-Questionnaire-for-Adults-Identified-English-rev.7.26.22.pdf or simply Google ACES test and you will be taken to the questionnaire.
Once you know more you will be better able to understand where to focus on your own healing from attachment and trauma wounds in childhood that impact your parenting.
From Ce Eshelman:
Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!
Read the companion blog -- https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/shame-is-not-your-family-heirloom
Additional Resources:
📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents by Ce Eshelman
✨ Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials
🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com
🧐 Check out my blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog
👉 Check out my Social:
🔹YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman
🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting
🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting
"Unmuted Love with Ce Eshelman" is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.
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Ce shares her experience as a therapist during what is turning out to be troubling times. Find out the 10 myths of grief and some tips for coping with a personal grief over losing a loved one, grief after losing a dream, or collective grief from the political wave of change that is provoking an avalanche of mixed feelings--grief being one of the many--no matter what side of the aisle you are on.
From Ce Eshelman:
Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!
Read the companion blog -- https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/shame-is-not-your-family-heirloom
Additional Resources:
📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents by Ce Eshelman
✨ Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials
🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com
🧐 Check out my blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog
👉 Check out my Social:
🔹YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman
🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting
🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting
"Unmuted Love with Ce Eshelman" is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.
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In today's episode Ce gives you a short and sweet neuroscience lesson on why kids self-sabotage so much and how parents can be the changemakers in the way they respond. There isn't anything more frustrating than wanting your child to be able to have fun at an anticipated birthday party, overnight with friends, or a trip to Six Flags, and just before the event they pull out some kind of behavior that ruins their opportunity to do it. Ce helps parents prevent their children's self-sabotage by changing their own responses to those behaviors. Thank you for listening to Unmuted Love.
From Ce Eshelman:
Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!
Read the companion blog -- https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/shame-is-not-your-family-heirloom
Additional Resources:
📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents by Ce Eshelman
✨ Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials
🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com and AttachPlace.com
🧐 Check out my blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog
👉 Check out my Social:
🔹YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman
🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting
🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting
"Unmuted Love with Ce Eshelman" is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.
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