In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, hosts Chris and Sam sit down with Roland as he shares his poignant journey of living a double life, challenging his faith, and struggling with process addiction. Roland talks about growing up in a strict religious environment, questioning beliefs at a young age, and the impact of living a double life. He dives into how his need for validation and admiration led to compulsive behaviors that eventually resulted in a traumatic arrest at 14. Roland unpacks the concept of process addiction, explaining the necessity of addressing the underlying desire for validation rather than treating it as a typical addiction. He also discusses his path to recovery and the creation of his treatment program for high-achieving men, 'Successful Addict.' Roland emphasizes the importance of legacy, spirituality, and redefining what true admiration and respect mean in overcoming addiction. This episode provides deep insights into the challenges of process addiction and offers hope and practical advice for those struggling with similar issues.
*To connect with Roland, visit his website, check out his book on Amazon, and listen to his podcast!
00:00 Introduction
00:51 Roland's Early Life and Faith Struggles
01:54 Living a Double Life
02:19 Questioning Religious Beliefs
05:08 Impact of Faith on Addiction
06:40 Understanding Compulsive Behaviors
08:04 Arrest and Its Aftermath
10:16 Hiding the Secret and Seeking Validation
14:06 Process Addictions and Seeking Attention
16:49 Path to Recovery and Redefining Admiration
20:40 The Shift from Addiction to Sobriety
21:23 Normalization and Society's Influence
23:55 The Role of Legacy in Sobriety
25:08 Spirituality and Recovery
28:30 Understanding Process Addiction
32:44 The Successful Addict Program
35:33 Final Thoughts and Resources
39:32 A Song of Hope and Connection
