Tony and Brent sit down with legendary author and relationship educator Alison Armstrong—creator of The Queen’s Code and Understanding Men—for a raw, hilarious, and deeply insightful conversation on how men and women relate (and often misrelate).
From emotional safety to appreciation, from how women unknowingly disempower men to the oxytocin-fueled rollercoaster of texting, this episode dives deep. It opens with a playful game of “What Would a Queen Do?” and closes with Alison sharing the life mission that’s fueled her work for over three decades.
Whether you're single, dating, married, or just trying to communicate better, Alison delivers one revelation after another—with humor, clarity, and a grounded wisdom that feels like talking to an old friend. Hands down, one of the most powerful episodes we’ve ever recorded.
Key Topics Covered
● Why men feel like they’re “always in trouble”
● How women unintentionally sabotage connection
● The truth about honesty, appreciation, and emotional safety
● Why men stop telling the truth (and how to fix it)
● Texting, oxytocin, and how chemistry becomes addictive
● The four qualities men look for in a life partner
● The hidden cost of women leading with anger
● Queen energy vs. control tactics
● How women can set men up to win—and why it matters
Chapters
00:01:00 – Game time: What Would a Queen Do?
00:07:00 – “Men are used to being in trouble”
00:12:30 – Why you can’t trust men to tell the truth
00:20:45 – Women’s fear vs. men’s fear
00:27:30 – Chemistry is addictive—but it can be created
00:34:00 – Understanding how men define winning
00:45:00 – How women unknowingly emasculate men
00:55:00 – The four most attractive qualities in a woman
01:03:00 – Queen mindset vs. common relationship traps
01:12:00 – Why appreciation has to match the currency
01:26:00 – A message to the younger generation
01:43:00 – What Alison does next—and how to work with her
Links & Resources
Website:
https://www.alisonarmstrong.com
Free Book: Making Sense of Men
Use code AlisonGift2025 at checkout:
https://www.alisonarmstrong.com/products/making-sense-of-men
YouTube Channel (66+ free videos including Chemistry & Connection series):
https://www.youtube.com/@AlisonArmstrongVideos
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/thealisonarmstrong/
The Queen’s Code Audiobook & Journey:
https://www.alisonarmstrong.com
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