How would you feel if loneliness wasn’t a dead end, but a doorway into the most honest, turned-on chapter of your life?
In this episode, I chat with Roanna White (Ro) about moving from Saturday-night-on-the-couch loneliness to a liberated, off-the-script sexual life. We unpack what radical relating actually means in practice - relationships designed through truth, consent and courage - and what it looks like to live outside the script of “how good women should love and desire,” including candid conversations about swingers’ socials, play parties and kink curiosity. Ro is a passionate advocate for women 40+ embracing sensuality without shame, and she shares how divorce, mental health spirals and longing for connection became a catalyst for somatic healing, sex-positive exploration and reclaiming pleasure in midlife.
Tune in to hear us discuss:
Why loneliness can hit hard in midlife - even when you’re busy and surrounded by people
What honest self-inquiry can look like
Why she chose Somatic therapy - how it has helped her to complete stress and trauma responses and listen to body-truths
Radical relating - consent as a living practice, relationships by design, agreements that fit you
What life can look like outside the script - 'Red Hot Pie', ENM, party spaces and kink curiosity when it aligns with your values
Safety in real life - pre-talks, boundaries, newbie signalling, no-pressure culture, watchers vs players
Reframing safety vs mainstream dating - why explicit consent can feel safer than the apps
Receiving pleasure - letting desire back in, multiple orgasms and lingerie as a daily pleasure practice
Power and self-permission for women 40+ - pleasure in peri/menopause and beyond
Building non-sexual companionship and community as an antidote to loneliness
Ro and I explore how telling the truth, centring consent and giving yourself permission can shift everything in midlife - from how you connect with friends and lovers to how you meet yourself on a Saturday night. It’s a behind-the-scenes look at spaces people rarely talk about, translated into practical, values-led steps you can bring home to your body today.
If you’ve ever wondered what actually happens at sex-positive socials, and how to explore safely at your own pace, this episode is for you.
Roanna White via her:
Instagram: @one.ro.many.roads – https://www.instagram.com/one.ro.many.roads?igsh=MXd1azltejlicHdveg%3D%3D&utm_source=qr
YNKYER – Ro’s non-sexual, non-romantic companionship concept: http://www.ynkyer.com
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Please Note:
This episode mentions sexual assault. If listening brings anything up for you reach out for support. If you’re in Australia, support is available 24/7 at 1800RESPECT – 1800 737 732.
