What if the love you\'re chasing is actually keeping you trapped? In this raw, unfiltered conversation with internationally certified relationship coach Pooja Khera, founder of Zenquest by Pooja, we dive deep into the silent struggles that define modern relationships—the patterns we repeat, the chaos we mistake for passion, and the wounds we carry into every connection. This isn\'t your typical relationship advice episode. Pooja brings lived wisdom alongside her expertise, exploring why \"strong\" people often crumble quietly in love, how we normalize anxiety instead of recognizing calm connection, and what it really takes to break free from the cycles that keep us asking, \"Why do I always end up here?\" We unpack the red flags we ignore, the green flags we don\'t trust, how dating apps have rewired our expectations, and why emotional chaos often feels more familiar than healthy love. From self-worth to emotional expression, from healing trauma to recognizing what calm connection actually feels like—this conversation goes beyond surface-level dating tips to explore the deeper emotional work required to show up fully in love and life. Key Takeaways: Why we confuse emotional intensity with genuine connection The patterns that keep us stuck in unhealthy relationship cycles What healthy, calm love actually feels like (and why it\'s hard to trust) How to recognize and break the emotional habits that sabotage relationships The real work of healing that transforms how we love If you\'ve ever found yourself repeating the same relationship patterns or wondering why love feels so complicated, this episode is your mirror—and maybe your beginning. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices