In this episode of Trauma Is Real, Sarah is answering some listener questions about trauma, worthiness, anxiety, parenting, and building relationships. The conversation highlights that healing is a journey that often requires support and connection with others. Questions answered in this episode:
"I've been through a lot growing up, and sometimes I feel like I'm too 'damaged' to have a healthy relationship. How do you even begin to believe you're worthy of love when your past keeps trying to convince you otherwise?"
"Anxiety is something I carry with me constantly — especially at work, where I feel like I have to be 'on' all the time. Do you have any tips for managing anxiety when you can’t just step away or shut down?"
I'm a parent trying to love my child through their own trauma, but I worry I'm not doing it right. How can we show up for kids who are hurting, especially when we're still healing ourselves?"
"Trusting people feels impossible sometimes, and I find myself pushing people away before they even get close. How can someone with a traumatic past start building real, meaningful relationships again?"
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In this episode of Trauma Is Real, Sarah is answering some listener questions about trauma, worthiness, anxiety, parenting, and building relationships. The conversation highlights that healing is a journey that often requires support and connection with others. Questions answered in this episode:
"I've been through a lot growing up, and sometimes I feel like I'm too 'damaged' to have a healthy relationship. How do you even begin to believe you're worthy of love when your past keeps trying to convince you otherwise?"
"Anxiety is something I carry with me constantly — especially at work, where I feel like I have to be 'on' all the time. Do you have any tips for managing anxiety when you can’t just step away or shut down?"
I'm a parent trying to love my child through their own trauma, but I worry I'm not doing it right. How can we show up for kids who are hurting, especially when we're still healing ourselves?"
"Trusting people feels impossible sometimes, and I find myself pushing people away before they even get close. How can someone with a traumatic past start building real, meaningful relationships again?"
Have a question you'd like answered on the show? Send them to traumaisreal@soulbirdconsulting.info.
Interested in working with Soul Bird Consulting in 2025? Head to soulbirdconsulting.info to learn more!
Ep 09. Context, Choice & Connection (with Deb Dana)
Trauma Is Real
53 minutes 22 seconds
1 year ago
Ep 09. Context, Choice & Connection (with Deb Dana)
“Remembering is almost as effective as doing… when you remember you bring back what your nervous system has experienced.”
Well listeners, this week’s episode can only be described as a Dream Come True. This week Sarah chats with one of the G.O.A.Ts of trauma-responsive care, Deb Dana!
Deb Dana is a clinician, consultant, author, speaker, and founding member of The Polyvagal Institute. Sarah and Deb’s conversation centered around Sarah’s 2nd Core Conviction of trauma-responsive care: Regulation is a practice and what a day in the life of a Direct Service Provider can look like through the lens of the 2nd Core Conviction (21:02). Deb also provides insight into why remembering is so powerful (13:50) and what the trouble with visualization is (14:52). They wrap up their conversation with Deb sharing a few things to do and ways to be from the perspective of a DSP (46:20).
Mentioned in this episode:
Polyvagal Theory: Coregulation, Neuroception, Hierarchy (07:28 )
The 3 essential elements for the Nervous System: Context, Choice and Connection (19:10)
A practice of Noticing and Naming
2 min regulation practices that DSPs can do to regulate their own nervous systems (23:41)
Tempo matching and Tempo mismatching (32:12)
Contact Deb Dana at: Rhythm of Regulation
We’re loving the feedback we’re getting so far from you all! Have a question about something you heard on the show? Email Sarah and she’ll answer your question! TraumaisReal@soulbirdconsulting.info
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Trauma Is Real
In this episode of Trauma Is Real, Sarah is answering some listener questions about trauma, worthiness, anxiety, parenting, and building relationships. The conversation highlights that healing is a journey that often requires support and connection with others. Questions answered in this episode:
"I've been through a lot growing up, and sometimes I feel like I'm too 'damaged' to have a healthy relationship. How do you even begin to believe you're worthy of love when your past keeps trying to convince you otherwise?"
"Anxiety is something I carry with me constantly — especially at work, where I feel like I have to be 'on' all the time. Do you have any tips for managing anxiety when you can’t just step away or shut down?"
I'm a parent trying to love my child through their own trauma, but I worry I'm not doing it right. How can we show up for kids who are hurting, especially when we're still healing ourselves?"
"Trusting people feels impossible sometimes, and I find myself pushing people away before they even get close. How can someone with a traumatic past start building real, meaningful relationships again?"
Have a question you'd like answered on the show? Send them to traumaisreal@soulbirdconsulting.info.
Interested in working with Soul Bird Consulting in 2025? Head to soulbirdconsulting.info to learn more!
