What if grief isn’t something to fix… but something to feel?
In this raw and deeply moving episode, I sit down with Matt Murray, a TV personality turned grief and addiction coach, for a conversation that goes beyond clichés and into the real, unfiltered terrain of heartbreak, healing, and human transformation
After losing his mother to cancer, Matt spiraled into numbing—drinking, scrolling, isolating—only to realize that the only way out was in. What follows is a profound story of emotional devastation, brutal family betrayal, and the long, winding road back to presence, power, and purpose.
We talk about the messiness of grief, the myth of “having it together,” and how to use pain as a portal to truth. From ADHD to abandonment wounds, spiritual awakenings to Eastern philosophy, this is an episode for anyone who’s ever lost someone they love and wondered how to keep living.
Inside this episode:
• Why grief starts before someone dies
• The raw reality of watching a parent deteriorate
• How trauma affects the body and what “dry screaming” taught him
• The dark side of grief: betrayal, anger, and emotional shutdown
• Spiritual lessons from Ram Dass, Alan Watts, and the path of surrender
• Rebuilding from ground zero: friendships, finances, identity
• Radical acceptance and what it really means to “let go”
• The truth about TV fame, money, and why followers don’t equal freedom
• Transforming pain into purpose and helping others rise
Chapters:
00:00 – Welcome to The Transformation Code
02:30 – Matt Loosing His Mum To Cancer
11:50 – The Tough Time
15:00 – Meditation & Energy For Healing
18:55 – Tapping Into Your Hearts Intelligence
21:30 – Nervous System Patterns From Youth & ADHD
25:10 – Providing Safety Through Embracing Imperfection
26:30 – Living Fight Or Flight
32:45 – Student Of Life
40:10 – Pain To Power
51:00 – Matt On Married At First Sight Experience
01:06:00 – Is Everyone Worthy Of Love?
01:13:24 – The Grieving & Addiction Overcoming Process
01:20:57 – The Vault & Final Reflections
About Matt Murray:
Matt Murray is a grief and addiction coach who helps people rebuild from the inside out. After rising to fame on reality TV, Matt experienced a series of personal earthquakes, none more devastating than the loss of his beloved mother. That grief cracked him open and invited him to step into a whole new life. Today, Matt guides others through the chaos of loss and into the clarity of truth, helping them find strength not in spite of their pain but because of it.
“You’re already in pain. You might as well get a reward from it.” — Matt Murray
This episode is an invitation to feel it all, to stop pretending, and to find your way home.
🎧 Tune in. Let the code activate something deep within.
With love and abundance,
Sam
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Mentioned Resources:
• Ram Dass – Spiritual teacher whose teachings on death and consciousness deeply influenced Matt’s healing journey
• Alan Watts – Philosopher known for translating Eastern philosophy to the Western mind
• The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer – Book referenced for its insights on letting go
• Jordan Peterson – Mentioned for his concept of introspective questioning
• Tony Robbins – Referenced for his teachings on blame and personal transformation