Get ready for an extraordinary episode on the Too Dad to Quit podcast as we sit down with the incredible Andy Heller, a serial entrepreneur, and author of Take the High Road: Divorce with Compassion for Yourself and Your Family. Hosted by Ben, this conversation is a deep dive into the life, challenges, and unwavering commitment that define Andy's journey as a dad. In this heartfelt discussion, Andy shares his personal stories, triumphs, and the lessons he's learned while navigating the unpredictable terrain of divorce. Andy and Ben discuss how Andy decided to move across the country to be near his children and dive into the topics of his book. Andy shares his writing process and how he took business concepts like conflict resolution and applied them to co-parenting. Andy's book lays out the business plan for a well-thought-out divorce and post-divorce co-parenting experience. As a testament to the Too Dad to Quit ethos, Andy discusses how he has transformed challenges into opportunities, becoming an inspiration for dads everywhere. Contact Us to Share Your Story: https://toodadtoquit.com/contact
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Chapters:
00:00 Therapy and Self-Reflection: A Personal Story
00:33 To Dad To Quit Podcast Introduction
01:25 Sharing Personal Stories, Introducing Andy Heller and His Book
04:04 Personal Background and Moving Across the Country for Family
05:55 Personal Experiences in Real Estate & Going Through Therapy
08:48 Sef-Reflection, Being the Reasonable Thinker and Emotional Compromise
10:12 Creating a Best Practices Manual for Divorcees
12:24 Appreciation for Pausing, Practical Advice, and the Importance of Self-Care
16:49 The Importance of Communication and Joining Clubs for Support
18:56 Dealing with High Conflict Divorces and the Importance of Taking the High Road
22:30 Prioritization and Strategic Compromise in Negotiations
25:05 Business Strategy: Providing Multiple Options
27:46 Challenges and Adaptation after Separation
30:24 Preparing for Divorce: Taking Inventory and Enhancing Communication
32:34 Observations on Divorce Tendencies and the Approach to Co-Parenting
34:43 Dealing with High Conflict Relationships
37:57 Reflecting on Past Relationships and Planning for the Future
41:40 Advice on Parenting and Communication during Divorce
46:44 Personal Growth and Development as a Parent
52:57 More Divorce Advice and Takeaways
55:40 Closing Remarks and Farewell
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Episode References:
Book: How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish, https://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/1451663889
Book: BIFF: Quick Responses to High-Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns by Bill Eddy, https://www.amazon.com/BIFF-Responses-High-Conflict-Personal-Meltdowns/dp/1936268728
Andy's Book: Take the High Road: Divorce with Compassion for Yourself and Your Family by Andy Heller, https://www.amazon.com/Take-High-Road-Compassion-Yourself/dp/B0C1J1RJL2
Reach out to Andy:
Facebook: https://facebook.com/takethehighroadbook
Instagram: https://instragram.com/andyheller
Web: https://takethehighroaddivorce.com
Email: andy@takethehighroaddivorce.com
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Thanks for listening,
Ben & Yoel