Being unapologetically me with true values might sound easy but with all kinds of conditionings and coping patterns, for instance co-dependency and people pleasing, its easier said than done.

I had a wonderful and open talk about relating with Matthias Schwenteck, who has been working in this field for about 15 years. He shared some really good information and added perspectives on this thing we call relating and being truthful to oneself.

Below are some important and also sometimes triggering topics we discussed:

- The 3 Steps of manhood -

1. Narcissistic / ego

2. Empathic, compassionate and loving, still not owning the “me”

3. Owning your masculinity, unapologetically me with compassion, safety, empathy and love

- 7 layers of relating -Old concepts like friends, partners, friends with benefits vs the more open and value-based way of relating, without the needy attachments. This is not to be mixed up with “shopping-mode” relating as described in the podcast 😊

- 3 minute game - Are You in connection for/ with yourself or do You get lost in somebody else (pleaser shadows)

- Radical self responsibility

- Consent - Seemen retention

- Relating dynamics - Committing with values

- Brother, sister and lover

ENJOY!

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