In this episode of Together, Courtney and Mike explore "The Sacred We"—a transformative approach to relationships rooted in connection, mutual care, and co-regulation. They dive into how relational coherence not only deepens intimacy but also impacts physical health, vitality, and even longevity. Through vulnerable storytelling and practical insights, they explain how to shift from “you/me” thinking to a unified “we” consciousness. They offer a powerful bonus at the end: a 4-step communication map to speak from the sacred we space—designed to create real, embodied connection.
(00:00:24) Welcome & What is the Sacred We
(00:01:19) Breaking the You/Me Conditioning
(00:03:49) Why Relational Connection Impacts Health & Longevity
(00:06:32) Emotional Stress, Illness & the Cost of Disconnection
(00:11:02) Tracking Ruptures: A Wake-Up Call
(00:12:42) Co-Regulation vs. Isolation During Distress
(00:14:37) The Cultural Fight-or-Flight Norm & Rewriting It
(00:16:11) Relational Coherence & Parenting
(00:19:12) Vitality Through Repair & Nervous System Regulation
(00:22:08) Reframing Connection as Mutual Empowerment
(00:24:40) From Sleeping Alone to Sacred Family Bed
(00:26:02) Introducing the Two-Person System
(00:29:10) Choosing the We Over Personal Reactivity
(00:31:04) Leaning In vs. Taking Space: The Spiritualized Myth
(00:33:47) Sovereignty vs. Sacred We: Not Codependency
(00:36:15) Self-Awareness as the Bridge to Connection
(00:40:30) Speaking in We Language During Conflict
(00:43:14) Words as Nervous System Regulators
(00:47:18) 💎 Bonus: The 4-Step Communication Map
(00:51:45) Invitation to the Together Community & Final Reflections
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