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Three Percent

Three Percent

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Welcome to Three Percent. This is your space if you’re on a journey of pursuing holistic masculinity, growing your emotional awareness, and cultivating deeper relationships and an authentic faith. We’re here to provide evidence-based guidance and proven strategies drawn from our experiences as therapists, friends, and mentors. We aren’t here to give you gimmicks or superficial “hacks.” We’re not telling you who to be, we're helping you uncover what gets in the way of being the man you want to be and offering you the authentic tools needed for tangible growth.

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Welcome to Three Percent. This is your space if you’re on a journey of pursuing holistic masculinity, growing your emotional awareness, and cultivating deeper relationships and an authentic faith. We’re here to provide evidence-based guidance and proven strategies drawn from our experiences as therapists, friends, and mentors. We aren’t here to give you gimmicks or superficial “hacks.” We’re not telling you who to be, we're helping you uncover what gets in the way of being the man you want to be and offering you the authentic tools needed for tangible growth.

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What's the Point in Changing?

Three Percent

41 minutes 19 seconds

3 months ago

What's the Point in Changing?

Summary

In this deeply personal episode, Jamie and Blake step away from interviews to reflect on one of the most important and tender questions they ask as therapists and friends: What’s the point in changing? Recorded during a 3% planning retreat, they share the raw stories of their own healing journeys—from addiction, numbness, and rage to freedom, connection, and hope. Whether you’re seeking freedom from a behavior or freedom for deeper relationships, this episode offers both encouragement and honesty for anyone in process.

Mentioned Resources

Chip Dodd’s Feelings Chart: https://www.chipdodd.com/free-resources-download
Jay Stringer’s book Unwanted: https://jay-stringer.com/book/
The Voice of the Heart by Chip Dodd: https://www.chipdodd.com/books

Takeaways

There’s often no clear “start” to change—just the next honest step.
External motivations (like a spouse or relationship) can be valid entry points.
Deep transformation comes when we realize we need to change for ourselves.
We are not our behaviors—shame grows when we enmesh identity with struggle.
Empathy often has to be relearned—and it starts with how we talk to ourselves.
Change is not linear, and recovery is a lifelong journey.
You're worth the work it takes to be known, healed, and free.

Chapters

(00:00) Welcome from the Cabin

(02:32) What Motivates Change?

(04:50) Motivational Interviewing & Counseling Insights

(06:44) Blake’s Story: Hitting a Wall

(10:10) Changing for a Relationship

(13:00) You Are Not the Problem

(16:20) Freedom From vs. Freedom For

(18:00) Jamie’s Story: Numbness and Rage

(22:10) The Role of Porn in Emotional Numbing

(24:55) Shifting Motivation Over Time

(26:20) Healing as Ongoing Work

(29:00) The Little Boy Inside Who Still Wants to Hide

(32:30) Parenting Yourself with Compassion

(35:10) Why Progress Feels Like a Circle

(37:00) Change for You, Not Just Them

(39:00) You’re Worth It

Keywords therapy, change, healing, recovery, shame, emotional health, addiction, porn recovery, motivation, empathy, rage, fatherhood, masculinity, self-awareness, spiritual formation, honesty, holistic masculinity, personal growth, identity, trauma, freedom, Jay Stringer, Chip Dodd, Voice of the Heart, emotional literacy