Why Am I Google? - The Mental Load Mums Didn’t Sign Up For
Ever feel like the household Google, Uber, and therapist rolled into one? You’re not alone. In this episode, Tammy and Carolyn unpack the invisible mental load mums carry — and share practical, playful ways to lighten it.
If you’ve ever been asked “Where’s the cheese?” or “Is there a bank in Botany?” while juggling dinner, work, and 27 other things… this episode is for you.
Tammy and Carolyn dive into the hidden load that so many mothers carry , the emotional, mental, and logistical responsibilities that are invisible, unacknowledged, and often overwhelming. Through relatable stories (including one hilarious real-life moment that inspired the title), they explore how mums often become the default parent, the household oracle, and the fixer of all things, simply because they can.
But just because you can doesn’t mean you should.
You’ll hear three tiny but mighty tools to help shift the mental load:
Pause and Reassign – how to gently hand back questions instead of always providing the answers.
The Load Audit – a reflective brain-dump exercise to see what you’re carrying and what you can release.
“Just Because I Can, Doesn’t Mean I Should” – a powerful mantra to help you pause, realign, and reclaim your energy.
Tammy and Carolyn also share creative, real-life strategies like assigning a “go-to” parent (or even a teen!) to help balance the load — all done with warmth, humour, and permission to drop the guilt.
Reflection questions included at the end will help you tune in to what you’re carrying, where you can let go, and who might share the load with you.
And if you’re in Auckland, don’t miss the Real Talk Workshop for Parents and Teens on Saturday 4 October 2025 a beautiful opportunity to rest, reconnect, and reset. For more information and to get your earlybird tickets please click on this link
https://events.humanitix.com/realtalk
You’re not alone, and you don’t have to do it all. Let’s lighten the load together.