Transformation requires confrontation. In this episode of The WORK, Jake unpacks why so many of us keep circling the same arguments, fights, and cycles in marriage, family, and life. Beneath the surface issues—finances, control, or time—are deeper longings: to be seen, to be safe, to be wanted. When we avoid confrontation, we trade transformation for fantasy, offering half-truths and quick fixes instead of the honesty that builds trust. We explore the temptation to want comfort over growth, and how coddling only feeds immaturity while covenant calls us higher. Consistency, follow-through, and the power of curious questions shift conversations from control to connection. From the ache of not feeling “enough” to the unspoken desire to be wanted, we see how childhood wounds often drive adult behaviors. This episode invites you to face the lies, stop running from the hard work, and embrace the long, faithful journey of building trust. Because at the end of the day, fruit grows when we refuse to give up. Related Materials: If you’re ready to go deeper, Jake also offers one-on-one and group coaching. These coaching sessions are designed to help you face the pain that keeps showing up, break old agreements, and build tools for real transformation in your marriage, family, and personal life. Whether you’re a man, woman, or couple, coaching provides a space for honesty, clarity, and growth. Learn more at: https://thisisthefight.com/coaching/