In this episode, James breaks down eight of the most common mistakes men make — the ones that quietly drain their energy, limit connection, and stop them from living with purpose. You’ll learn how to: Embrace vulnerability instead of carrying everything aloneBuild meaningful connection with yourself and othersStop attaching your worth to achievements and successLet go of perfection and find peace in progressSlow down, pause, and create presenceListen and understand instead of fixingFeel...

This week James's share the 4 stages to manage your mindset when things don't go to plan. Expect to learn: How to manage disappointment Why mental flexibility is so important What to do after the event Get in touch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/james_shireby/ Email: jamesshireby@hotmail.com Interview episodes you might enjoy: Anthony Barnes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwZ3TikRV9s Chloe Thomas: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JQEhKfcAZgk Johnny Lawrence: http...

This week James sits down to talk with Christian Lawal to talk about how to heal from a relationship ending. They discuss: How to make room for and manage difficult emotions Importance of having good friends Understanding your past and how it influences your present How to reflect and understand the good and negative parts of your previous relationships Fears and insecurities Importance of being alone Healing inside a relationship How to know if you're living in-line with ...

In this episode: James explores why so many men feel emotionally heavy — even when life looks “fine” on the surface. He unpacks how stress, emotional suppression, and unspoken tension can build up over time, and shares how to start releasing that weight in practical, healthy ways. You’ll learn: What “emotional load” really means and how it affects your body and mind.Why most men carry it without realising it.How to identify what’s weighing you down.The importance of awareness, acceptance, and...

Most men want deeper connection — with their partner, kids, mates… even themselves. But you can’t build quality connection with others if you’re disconnected from yourself. Connection isn’t just about having people around. It’s about presence, honesty, empathy, and shared experience. It’s about slowing down enough to see yourself clearly — and showing up as that version of you with others. Start by: • Taking moments in your day to pause and breathe • Noticing what you feel instead of ...

Get in touch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/james_shireby/ Email: jamesshireby@hotmail.com Interview episodes you might enjoy: Anthony Barnes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwZ3TikRV9s Chloe Thomas: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JQEhKfcAZgk Johnny Lawrence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_ErlDxpeGk Read more from me: https://twpt.co.uk/blog/77/how-to-manage-your-negative-thoughts Discounts: Awesome Supplements: https://awesomesupplements.co.uk/?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIn-Xrqs...

Most men train their bodies. Few train their minds. Mental fitness is about more than “positive thinking.” It’s the strength to face stress without breaking, to manage emotions instead of being controlled by them, and to keep moving forward when life gets heavy. For men, it means: Showing up at work with clarity instead of burnoutBeing present with your family instead of distractedBouncing back from setbacks instead of staying stuckLike physical training, mental fitness takes reps. Awaren...

Life will knock you down. The question is — will you stay down, or will you rise again? Bouncing back from adversity isn’t about pretending you’re fine or forcing yourself to “tough it out.” It’s about building resilience, leaning into connection, and finding the lessons in the struggle. In this episode of The Work, I share practical steps men can take to recover, rebuild, and come back stronger when life hits hard. Get in touch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/james_shireby/ Ema...

Ever found yourself stuck — repeating the same unhelpful behaviours, not sure how to move forward? As men, we’re quick to problem-solve. Quick to judge ourselves. Quick to push harder. But without real understanding, we drift. We lose focus. We lack meaning. This episode of The Work is your chance to pause and step back. To explore your: ✅ Struggles ✅ Strengths ✅ Stories ✅ Values ✅ Emotions ✅ Health & Stress ✅ Purpose & Direction Because when you understand yourself, you stop drifti...

Most men think confidence means never failing. Or never doubting yourself. That’s wrong. Real confidence is built in the messy, uncomfortable moments — when you fail, doubt yourself, and still keep moving forward. In this episode of The Work, I break down: Why confidence and resilience go hand-in-handHow perfection is silently killing your confidenceWhat’s holding you back from building competence And how to move forward even when fear and doubt show upConfidence isn’t a destination ...

Most people think behaviour change is about willpower — it’s not. It’s about setting up your environment, regulating your emotions, and building systems that make it easier to follow through, even on the hard days. In Part 2 of this series, I’m sharing the practical tools you need to make real, sustainable change: How to design your environment for successBuilding “emotional fitness” so feelings don’t derail your goalsA simple 5-question action plan to create clarity and focusHow to b...

Why does change feel so hard — even when you want it? It’s not because you’re lazy. It’s not a willpower issue. And it’s not about needing more motivation. Real behaviour change starts beneath the surface — with your identity, values, mindset, and the emotional blocks that keep you stuck. In this episode of The Work, I break down: 🔹 Why knowing what to do isn’t enough 🔹 How misalignment leads to self-sabotage 🔹 The 4 mindset blocks that keep men stuck 🔹 The DARE framework to create change t...

Your health is the foundation for everything you do in life — your energy, your mood, your focus, and your relationships. But with so much conflicting advice out there, it can feel overwhelming to know where to start. In this episode of The Work with James Shireby, I break down the three foundational pillars of health and wellbeing: 1️⃣ Sleep – why it’s your ultimate recovery tool 2️⃣ Nutrition – how to fuel your body without overcomplicating it 3️⃣ Exercise – building strength, energy, and...

Ever feel like you’re just going through the motions? You’re not alone. I speak with men who are feeling a little flat and lost and not sure why. They’ve achieved the things that they thought would make them happy but still feel they are missing something. Something to care about. Something to wake up for. Something that gives their struggle meaning. In this episode, I talk about what purpose really is, why it matters, and how to start building a life that actually feels worth living....

Ever feel like your emotions get the better of you? One minute you’re calm — the next, you’re snapping, shutting down, or stuck in shame. You’re not broken. You just haven’t been taught the tools. In this episode of The Work, I break down what emotional management really means — and why it’s one of the most important skills a man can develop. We cover: → Why managing emotions is the root of real change → How your past influences your present reactions → A practical step-by-step process to r...

Your relationships are more powerful than you think. They shape how you think, feel, and behave — often without you realising it. In this episode, I explore how relationships impact men’s mental health and wellbeing. We’ll unpack why connection matters, how emotional patterns from your past show up in your relationships today, and how to build better connections through self-awareness and communication. If you’ve ever felt disconnected, stuck in the same arguments, or unsure why your rela...

How do you actually know if you’re in a good place mentally? Not by ticking boxes. Not by pretending everything’s fine. But by how you respond when things aren’t. By how honest you are with yourself. By how grounded you feel in your values, even on the hard days. In this episode of The Work, I walk through 5 real signs of strong mental health. Not from a textbook — but from life. What it looks like to process your past, set healthy boundaries, manage your emotions, and stay steady in yo...

Life is hard sometimes. Struggle is part of the process — not a sign you’re failing. In this episode, I share simple but powerful strategies to help you stay grounded when life feels overwhelming. We talk about how to build resilience, manage your emotions, and keep showing up — even when it’s tough. This isn’t about pretending everything’s fine. It’s about learning how to respond with strength, self-awareness, and intention. If you’re in a season of stress, uncertainty, or burnout — th...

This week we’re talking about beliefs. The stories you tell yourself shape how you feel, how you act, and what you think is possible. Some beliefs move you forward. Others keep you stuck. In this episode, I break down: What limiting beliefs areHow they quietly shape your lifeWhy most limiting beliefs aren’t facts — they’re just practiced thoughtsAnd how you can start challenging the ones that hold you back If you want to grow, you need to pay attention to the beliefs you’re carryin...

Welcome to my new podcast. The Work. A podcast that helps men grow and develop by doing the work that matters. In this short podcast I share with you what The Work is and how it can help you. My focus is to help you live a fulfilling, happy and successful life by working on yourself and taking positive action. Helping you live a life of purpose, strength and resilience and be able to be strong and support the people you love and care about in the right way. Get in touch: In...