Listen in on this Livestream that I did last week as I unpack how unworthiness causes us to place ourselves in a dangerously vulnerable situation, one that causes us to seek from others what we REFUSE TO FIRST GIVE OURSELVES! If you are still seeking validation (from a man or anyone else) that you are lovable, worthy, and deserving you will always be forever proving and performing, struggling, and striving to be loved. It shows up in the over giving, overcommitting, overextending oursel...

I'm back! It's been a LOOOONG time and I'm excited to get back to my WCW family. Sooo let's dive into this Facebook and YouTube live where I am unpacking what happens when we repress, run from, resist and ride over the top of emotional pain. When that restless sad feeling comes don’t brush it off or go do something to occupy your mind...You are Worthy of Your Tears 🙏🏼❤️🙌🏼 Pain is a teacher. It comes to pass and not to stay! If you are in some kind of emotional pain right now -...

Have you ever been in a Microsoft Teams or Zoom meeting where everyone is overtalking and interrupting each other? How do you conduct yourself as a woman of faith when you are under pressure and there are too many cooks in the kitchen and the temptation is to go off on someone? How do we practically maintain poise under pressure? Listen in as I speak from recent personal experience on how to not let your emotions hijack your testimony and ability to think and problem solve in stressful ...

If you have just endured a major life season or completed major life milestones, please, please take your time, recalibrate, and reflect before you jump out to do something big, stressful and new to fill in the gap! A new baby, a new job, a new relationship, changing churches, moving, ending a relationship, last kid moving out and now living the empty nest life, loss of job, death in family…. All of these are very major life events. Sometimes in our emotional state, restlessness, ...

God is good! I’m getting better and better at exiting #StageLeft when I see the #RedFlags. As high achieving women of faith over 40, we don’t have time to stay in limbo land with man and neither do we settle or compromise our values and standards! Listen in as I discuss why at our age it is so CRITICAL to believe what we see at face value instead of waiting, praying and giving the “benefit of the doubt”… Books & digital courses for your personal development & emotional hea...

Pain is a teacher! It doesn’t come to stay. It is supposed to pass on through us. But when we get stuck in it, by running from, hiding, pushing it away, avoiding, medicating, we delay our destiny… In this episode, I unpack the last five subtle and sneaky ways that unprocessed pain, hurt, trauma, drama, and disappointments. We don’t realize this is happening until we look back and realize how far off course are. Don’t let it be you! Books & digital courses for your personal developme...

Feeling “some kind of way” about disappointments and hurts in your journey without dealing with them will subtly derail your destiny quicker than you realize. Listen in as I dive into the first 5 ways that unprocessed, hidden, disappointments and struggles stop us from fully showing up. It’s time to Get back to doing what God said… Books & digital courses for your personal development & emotional healing: https://linktr.ee/tonikamaria Let’s connect! CLICK HERE to get on Ton...

My confession on why I haven't showed up lately.

In this powerful conversation with Coach Ronda Barnes, get ready for some serious wisdom when it comes to developing leadership capacity and character. It’s not for the faint of heart. In this episode you will learn: · What it really means to transition from milk to meat as you mature in your walk with God. · How God develops the pockets of capacity in you as an influencer and leader · The two main reasons ...

Brace yourself for this episode! Today’s guest is Shondra Watson, the founder of I am Shondra. We had such a wonderful conversation where the mic was dropped and wisdom came forth when it comes to women of faith, dating over 40, the realities of marriage and our expectations as singles. She is a Lifestyle coach, Singles Tactician, a single mom of three, ordained minister, worship leader with a thriving juice business, Juiced by Shondra. She shares: Singleness is not a disease and marria...

Another Hot topic from my YouTube! Remember, sis anytime you feel, 1) Empty 2) Deprived and 3) Rejected you are target for your heart to be snared into something (a relationship, situation, places, things) that will take you far from God, His purposes and His best for your life. When we have deficits and voids in in our soul, SOUL LEVEL DYSFUNCTION AND CHAOS ENSUES! When there are deep unmet needs and deeply rooted negative beliefs about ourselves, you will always get us ca...

Straight from my YouTube Live that I did on Monday ~~ Why do we tend to act in haste? Where does this pressure, this intensity to ACT NOW come from? Why do we rush and push all of the time? There are many potential reasons why we sometimes move too quickly but I believe there are two main issues involved when we act or speak rashly without thinking... Click the link below for books and resources on personal development and to get on Tonika Maria’s VIP mailing list to stay in the ...

What a journey! In this episode Katie shares with us her powerful testimony of deliverance from the New Age spirituality, addiction and promiscuity to now building the Kingdom of God with focus, tenacity, agility and staying power. Her journey from the depths of darkness into the light is a testimony of the power of God to deliver anyone at any time! Listen in on this powerful conversation! How she used new age as an attempt to regain power from a deep place of shame and wou...

After a bout of COVID the last week of December in 2022, I had to play catch up, show kindness to myself and remind myself of all of the things I said was letting go of in 2022 and what I would intentionally embrace in 2023. Listen in as I read from my private journal of what I wrote and see what resonates with you! Click the link below for books and resources on personal development and to get on Tonika Maria’s VIP mailing list to stay in the loop on upcoming events for 2023! ht...

Here we are at the top of 2023, and we are starting this with a powerful conversation with my guest, Mrs. Teresa Ekundayo! We had a very real and raw woman to woman talk when it comes to: How God used dreams and visions to show her the true nature of the men she was dating as a single mother.How she handled it when she slipped up on her abstinence journey and what it finally took for her to stick to her guns (yes, we went there)The correlation between your finances and your romances as a woma...

The relationship equation: Unhealthy ME + Unhealthy HE = Unhealthy WE byChristine Arylo Indeed, the only thing that I have control over in this equation is ME. If I am a healthy ME, I will in turn attract a healthy HE and we can have a Healthy WE. I can’t have a healthy WE, until I first deal with ME. You can’t have a healthy relationship with a man if you have a toxic relationship with yourself…Let’s not head into 2023 with an Unhealthy ME! Listen in on this Click the link ...

That old sneaky, subtle pride will block up your blessings! It’s pride that will cause us to run ahead of God to make things happen. Pride can morph into comparing and competing with others instead of functioning in the spirit of true collaboration. It can show up as needing to be seen, puffed up and validated externally based on works instead of simply being who you are in God. It can turn into the lone ranger syndrome of being unwilling to receive community and connection becaus...

Jumping on every new and novel, bright new shiny strategy, and trend…getting burned out trying to do it all…hustling and grinding from wrong motive, intention, and spirit. We are not doing this anymore! In 2023 we are going to learn to wait on God and walk out our marching orders with ease and certainty and not in our zeal and ego. Listen now to this brief teaching from my book A Woman’s Journey Home: 14 Keys to Ascending to the Next Dimension… Click the links in my bio to grab your cop...

You can’t cure what you keep covered. We can’t keep sweeping unresolved emotional pain and issues under the rugs of our hearts and pretend they don’t exist. It’s still there growing and festering…and it will sabotage your best efforts to uplevel in 2023! Let that not be you! Listen now to this brief teaching from my book A Woman’s Journey Home: 14 Keys to Ascending to the Next Dimension… Click the links in my bio to grab your copy as I go through this over the next few weeks. Foll...

One thing I do know, God is not going to give you something (business, career, project, etc.) if it is going to kill you. If you don’t have the emotional capacity, resilience, or sobriety, a big blessing with a lot of responsibilities would wind up being a curse for you. Let’s talk about dealing with our emotions before writing out a big plan and vision board. Tap now to listen to this brief teaching from my book A Woman’s Journey Home: 14 Keys to Ascending to the Next Dimension… Click the li...