What if your self-worth has quietly been outsourced?
In this Weirdly Personal episode, I’m unpacking the validation loop - that exhausting cycle of chasing approval, likes, or praise even when we know it’s making us miserable.
I get into how our need for validation isn’t a personality flaw, but a learned pattern shaped by our childhood and reinforced by a culture that rewards traditional progress at one of the stickiest times of our lives.
From the dopamine hit of social media to the performance of dating and work success, I explore why our thirties can feel like a constant test of “am I doing enough?”
We’ll cover:
🔁 How the need for external validation is a learned
🔁 Why it feels so heavy in our thirties
🔁 The cost of living for likes, promotions, or praise
🔁 Research-backed ways to shift from external to internal validation
This one’s for anyone who’s ever found themselves looking to everyone else for answers or playing for the applause instead of their own joy.
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We know that losing people we love is inevitable - but why does grief still feel so awkward?
Freddie lost both of his parents by the age of 23, an experience he didn’t face head-on. The first time, he buried it in childhood distractions; the second, he numbed it through socialising and alcohol.
Now in his thirties, he’s learned that grief doesn’t end — it evolves. And at some point, it has to be faced.Through running, reflection, and opening up about loss online, Freddie has found peace in the power of conversation.
In this episode, we talk about:
🌀 The non-linear journey of grief
🌀 Navigating your twenties and thirties without parents
🌀 The questions Freddie wishes he’d asked while they were still here
🌀 How to prepare for the practical side of loss
This episode is for anyone who’s lost someone, fears losing someone, or wants to better understand how to show up for those who have.
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What if your hormones had ruled your life for as long as you could remember?
After years of emotional crashes and misdiagnoses, Kristina finally discovered she was living with PMDD — premenstrual dysphoric disorder, a hormone condition that debilitates her for two weeks of every month.
In this raw and brave conversation, Kristina opens up about:
🌀 What living with PMDD is really like
🌀 How it impacts her dating, career, and big life decisions
🌀 Her decision to choose a hysterectomy in her early 30s
This is a story about hormones, yes — but also about taking back control when your body feels like it’s working against you, and the courage it takes to make decisions others might never understand.
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What if identity shifts aren’t breakdowns but breakthroughs?
This week, we’re getting weirdly personal about identity - that quiet, disorienting shift that creeps in when who you were stops fitting, but who you’re becoming isn’t clear yet. Suddenly, the things that once defined you, your job, your habits, your goals, might not feel like you anymore.
From grieving old versions of ourselves to realising how much of our “personality” was performance, we’re getting into it all.
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🌀 Why our thirties are such a turbulent time for identity
🦋 The difference between your core self and your shell self
🥀 Why shedding old versions of yourself can feel like grief (and why that’s okay)
📦 How to find peace in your identity through new stories and small actions
If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking, “I don’t even recognise myself anymore,” then you’re not lost, you’re just shedding and this one is for you.
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Remember when friendship just… happened?
This week, we’re getting weirdly personal about the friendship gap — that strange, silent drift that happens as life scatters us into different jobs, cities, and stages. Suddenly, maintaining friendships feels like a full-time job.
From friendship “breakups” that still sting years later to the awkward reality of trying to make new friends as a grown adult, we’re diving into why staying close feels harder than ever — and what we can actually do about it.
We’ll unpack:
💬 Why friendship peaks at 25 (and what happens after)
🌿 The emotional cost of connection and why “inconvenience is the price of community”
🧩 How to repair old friendships, and make new ones that actually last
💞 Why your friends might just be the greatest loves of your life
If your WhatsApp feels quieter these days, or you’ve ever wondered “is it just me?” - this one’s for you.
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What happens when your body breaks down before your mind admits you’re burnt out?
This week I’m joined by David Vioque — a recovering investment banker who had every marker of success on paper, but inside was facing what he calls “spiritual burnout.”
When his health started to collapse — caffeine stopped working, exercise gave immediate exhaustion — he did what most of us only dream of: he walked away.
David trekked the Camino de Santiago, sat in silence with monks in Nepal, and built a toolkit for reconnection and purpose.
Now, he’s the co-founder of Unbound, a reimagined health space in Shoreditch that blends testing, conversation, and community into something radically more human for preventative health & longevity.
In this episode we get into:
✨ What it really means to face spiritual burnout
✨ Why silence and solitude can be medicine for clarity
✨ How to find balance in “the extreme middle” of health
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Could your sex life be the quiet revolution that reshapes how you see yourself in your thirties?
This week I’m joined by Emma-Louise Boynton - journalist, founder of Sex Talks, and unflinching voice on intimacy, body image, and the stories we’re told about desire.
After years of struggling with her relationship to her body, Emma-Louise's experience in sex therapy at 28 reshaped how she thought about intimacy altogether and inspired her mission to take conversations about pleasure from taboo and awkward to enlightening and essential.
We get into:
✨ Why so many millennials are having less sex than generations before us
✨ The body insecurities and cultural scripts that follow us into our thirties
✨ How curiosity, not performance, is the most radical path to confidence
This chat is a reminder that sex isn’t something you “figure out” in your twenties and forget, it keeps evolving, just like the rest of us.
If you’re craving more intimacy but aren’t sure where to start, whether with yourself or someone else, this one's for you.
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What if by 36 you’d already overcome more than you ever thought possible?
This week I’m joined by Abi Feltham - content creator, comedian (although she doesn't admit that), and unfiltered storyteller - whose life has been anything but linear. After years of self-destruction through alcohol and drugs, Abi achieved sobriety at 32… only to face an incurable brain cancer diagnosis just four years later.
Abi shares it all, from the chaos of teenage angst, to the breakdown that finally led her to therapy, to the “sinus infection” that turned out to be a tumour. We dive into the cycles of her addiction, what resilience really looks like, and how she’s learned to choose self-compassion after decades of self-loathing.
For anyone who’s ever felt like their thirties aren’t going to plan and needs a reminder that it’s possible to rebuild after collapse, this one's for you.
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The haunting what-ifs 😱
What if you picked the wrong path? the wrong career, the wrong partner, the wrong city?
We’ve all been there: lying awake at 2am, spiralling through The Big What-If and wondering if we’ve blown our one shot at the “right” life.
In this Weirdly Personal solo episode, we’re unpacking the nagging regret spiral that so many of us get caught in, and why our generation in particular can’t stop asking what if and what's next?
Here’s what we get into:
If you’ve ever felt haunted by the roads not taken, this one’s for you. Because regret isn’t proof we chose wrong, it’s proof we had freedom. And that’s worth something.
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What if building the family you dream of didn’t depend on waiting for “the one” to show up first?
This week I’m joined by Keira - NHS nurse, aesthetics expert, and unapologetically independent powerhouse - who at just 25 decided she wasn’t going to wait for a partner to start the family she always knew she wanted. Through IVF with a sperm donor, she became mum to her son Noah, rewriting the script on what motherhood can look like.
Keira shares the full story - from Googling “how to have a baby on my own,” to navigating donor databases, IVF costs, and genetic testing. We unpack making that big decision, why “waiting for the right guy” isn’t a guarantee and the backlash she faces online.
This is for anyone feeling the pull of parenthood but stuck is on the 'who', ‘when’ and ‘how', this is for you.
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What if you've been putting off what you want, waiting for what's next?
This week I’m joined by the magnetic Macki Maconie, a brand curator, creative, and free spirit. After her divorce, she traded London for Portugal and built Casa do Sol - a home, retreat space, and community that reflects everything she values.
From manifesting her dream house on a vision board to navigating love and dating in a new country, Macki shows how she’s refusing to wait for the “perfect” timeline. Instead, she’s creating connection, belonging, and joy entirely on her own terms
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We talk about buying the big house without the big family, beauty and loneliness of starting over abroad, and why building a home and community can be the foundation you need to love yourself.
If you’ve ever felt like your life is “on pause” until the right person arrives, Macki’s story is proof that the right time is now.
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What if the things you’ve always criticised yourself for weren’t "personality flaws" at all, but ADHD in disguise?
This week I’m joined by the brilliant Lauren Talulah, a creator, writer and poet whose late ADHD diagnosis at 31 reframed a lifetime of inconsistency, fidgeting, and endless new ideas. From thriving in freelance chaos, to rejection sensitivity, Lauren opens up about how ADHD has shaped her career, creativity, and dating life.
We talk about the double-edged sword of hyperfocus, the fear of commitment (even to getting a cat), and why anxious–avoidant dating dynamics are basically millennial kryptonite. Along the way, we dive into the power of protein, feeling limerence, and how learning to work with your brain can transform what once felt impossible.
If you’ve ever questioned whether your quirks are flaws or just part of who you are, this one’s for you.
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I'm back with the BIG NEWS part 2 — no guest, no script, just me processing the fact that I’m four months pregnant… a plot twist to my hot girl summer I was not expecting.
This is the unfiltered ramble on being the first in my friendship group to have a baby, the quiet grief for the “other lives” I won’t live, the fear of losing my identity but the excitement of some epic growth), and my attempts to embrace the massive physical and mental rewiring that comes with motherhood. In between, there’s bad pregnancy gym advice, constipation chat, why I refuse to become the “boring mum friend,” and my maybe-delusional plan for a no-epidural water birth.
If you’ve ever had life fast-forward on you and found yourself both thrilled and mildly terrified… you’ll feel right at home here.
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I’m back with another Weirdly Personal chat - no guest, no script, just me rambling my way through whatever the weird years have dumped on me this week.
This one is a BIG one. It's me out loud processing a plan that decided to fast-forward itself and do a little shock. It starts with us debating if we want children, curves into birth control drama (hello, cystic acne) and ends somewhere I absolutely did not expect to be this be this summer. In between there’s moving house, questionable meatballs, and a whole lot of overthinking about when is the right time to start a family.
If you’ve ever made a five-year plan only for your body to throw you some surprises… this one’s for you.
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What if you knew you wanted a family, and just went for it?
This week I’m joined by the brilliant Louisa Lau, a Creative Director who was living the East London creative life - navigating career highs, less-than-ideal long-term partners, and artistic exploration - until she found herself 36, single, and certain she wanted a child.
We talk about dating with intention, asking the big questions early, and managing the quiet panic that comes with late-stage fertility pressure. From being told she had a 10% chance of success freezing her eggs, to conceiving naturally at 37, Louisa’s story is proof that knowing what you want - and saying it out loud - can change everything.
If you’ve ever wondered whether it’s OK to bring up babies on a date, or felt like time is running out—it’s not. And this one’s for you.
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What if becoming a parent meant spreadsheets, scans and serious self-reflection?
This week I’m joined by the brilliant and big-hearted Calypso Barnum-Bobb, a coach, community builder and breath work facilitator navigating the emotional, financial and bureaucratic maze of queer fertility.
We talk about what it really takes to become parents as a same-sex couple - from navigating the IVF post-code lottery, to where find a donor, to flying to the U.S. for reciprocal IVF.
Calypso shares the deeply conscious, often absurd, and emotionally charged reality of when love meets logistics.
If you’re back and forth on the kid question, or exploring IVF, you’ll get so much from this one.
If you’re firmly in the no-kids camp, this is a mind-opening glimpse into what queer couples are really up against. At the very least, it might help you support a friend going through it.
If you’d like to support Calypso and Natalia on their journey to becoming the incredible parents we know they’ll be, consider donating to their cause. Even skipping a coffee and giving £3.50 can make a big difference. Every little bit is deeply appreciated 💛 - https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-us-become-mamas-finally
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What if having it all means holding a lot?
This week I’m joined by the brilliant and driven Tasneem Bhamji, Chief Digital Officer at a major UK bank, who’s spent her life being the one who holds it all together—at work, at home, and for her family.
We talk about growing up with a scarcity mindset, building generational wealth, and navigating the pressure of being “the successful one” as a woman of colour in leadership. From being the reliable eldest daughter to becoming a spokesperson for others who don’t see themselves in the room, Tas shares how her grit got her far—but also how heavy it can feel to always get it right.
This is a raw, funny, and moving conversation about ambition, responsibility, and redefining what success means when you're carrying more than just your own dreams.
If you’ve ever felt like success came with a lot of strings attached, this one’s for you.
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I'm back this month with Weirdly Personal.
These episodes roll a little differently, it's just me, no guest, yapping and trying to untangle the stuff swirling in my overthinking brain.
This one’s about freedom vs. security. The big swinger, the two sides of life's coin. That constant tug-of-war between wanting wild autonomy and also, somehow, a gym routine and a pension.
I get into work, money, relationships, and that weird thing where you build the life you want... but still find yourself daydreaming about living on a beach with no responsibilities.
If you’re craving structure and rebellion at the same time, this one’s for you.
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What if coming out as a lesbian was just chapter one?
This week I’m joined by the thoughtful and expansive Zahra Abdullahi, a creative powerhouse who shares their journey through sexuality, gender identity, and finding a deeper sense of self in their thirties.
We talk about growing up as a boxed-in masc lesbian, unpicking the layers of gender, and how embracing non-binary identity opened up not just new language, but a whole new lens for living.
From shaking off rigid roles to reimagining what life's decisions look like without the binary, this is an honest, moving conversation about change, growth, and finally becoming more of who you really are.
If you’re done squeezing into roles that never quite fit, this one’s for you.
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What if everything you envied in other women in your twenties… now just makes you want to hold them closer?
This week I’m joined by the generous and grounded Heidi Gowthorpe, who helps women reconnect to themselves through sound healing, embodiment, women’s circles, and radical honesty.
She shares her story of growth, reconnection, and recovery - how healing from an eating disorder in her late twenties dismantled everything she thought made her "valuable", and opened the door to a softer, more authentic life.
We talk about unlearning competition between women, the grief of growing out of old friendships, and what happens when you finally stop performing and let yourself be fully seen.
If you’re in your thirties and starting to question everything you were taught about being a woman - this one’s for you.
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