When you are faced with something you want to change, and have a spouse that isn't on the same page, it's best to initiate a discussion about the change. Share your thoughts; openly listen to theirs. It's likely that together, you will be able to come up with a solution.
If you are lucky enough to grow up with a father, there are a few things that you learn from a young age. A good father puts their well being aside to help their children. They sacrifice happiness, comfort, tranquility, and rest to make sure that their children are happy and well cared for.
When was the last time you caught up with someone from years ago? Someone you haven’t seen for a long time! Sometimes it can be a little odd catching up with old friends, with old baggage rearing it’s ugly head. Often it’s a lovely, if not sentimental experience. Even if it’s just for a moment.
Being friends with the opposite sex isn’t impossible. But, just because of pure human nature, there are ingrained systems, thoughts, and impulses within that can make male-female friendships often confusing.
Being friends with the opposite sex isn’t impossible. But, just because of pure human nature, there are ingrained systems, thoughts, and impulses within that can make male-female friendships often confusing.
One of the most painful and frustrating things for parents is watching their child make bad choices and “throw it all away.” Some of these choices include running with the wrong crowd, dropping out of school, drinking and doing drugs, and engaging in risky behavior. The difficult truth is, you don't have control over your child’s choices.
For many, Mother’s Day is a time to reflect and show gratitude to the women and mothers who have been mentors and caregivers; ultimately those who help shape us into who we are. In honor of this special day, The Vintage Gentleman shares and reflects on what his mother meant to him.
Having role models in our life is very important, and having good role models is more important, as they influence what we do and how we turn out eventually. Positive role models influence our actions and motivate us to strive to uncover our true potentials and overcome our weakness.
As adults, it is easy to assume that we know everything and that we have already heard all the stories. The truth is that many of us don’t ask questions enough. There’s no better way to become more knowledgeable then listening to the advice of others with an open mind.
Being independent is highly useful when you’re single. A certain amount of independence is also beneficial for you when in relationship. But too much independence might inhibit the inherent emotional tie to your partner. It’s natural to become emotionally interdependent in intimate relationships but if you’re too prone to “independence,” this natural state may become compromised.
This week, the Vintage Gentleman answers questions from listeners.
Many children who are sexually abused don't tell anyone about it and many keep their secret all their lives. People who sexually abuse children are more likely to be people we know, and could well be people we care about. They are family members or friends, neighbors or babysitters - many hold responsible positions in society. The closer the relationship between the child and the person carrying out the abuse, the less likely the child is to talk about it.
Dating at any age can be a bit daunting, but once you’ve hit your 40s, you’re dealing with a whole new set of challenges. At this point your baggage might include a divorce, a couple of kids in tow, and a rewarding but stressful career. Where, then, do you find the time to fit in love? Or, perhaps you’ve delayed marriage, and now, well-established in your career, you don’t want to miss out on finding a companion.
Ending toxic relationships and letting go of toxic people is never easy, but you need to take a hard look at the signs your marriage or relationship is in trouble and take adequate action to mend it or walk out of it. There will be times when you have doubts about your relationship, wondering if the person you are with is actually ‘the one’ for you. You may often find yourself questioning your decision to stay with them over and over again. If that is the case, it is possible your relationship might be toxic for you. It is not good for any of us to be in a relationship with no love.
Traumatic childhood experiences such as abuse, neglect, loss of a loved one, domestic violence, parental substance abuse, and other life-altering events impact how a child views him or herself and responds to the world. Traumatic events can have lifelong consequences. The more adverse childhood experiences a person has, the higher their risk of health and wellness problems later in life.
Women internalize things and tend to blame themselves first, thinking it's because they have done something wrong, or that they are no longer attractive to their partner. In fact, the first thing a woman thinks when a man can't get an erection is that it's her fault, and nothing could be further from the truth. The Vintage Gentleman and guest Tamonica discuss the issue of men 40 and up not being able to get or keep it up.
Thinking about ending a relationship is never simple, especially when you have years invested in your partner. It's so easy to make excuses for the person you're dating, to convince yourself to stay with them even if you know, deep down, that it's not working out. No one actually wants to go through a breakup—it's painful, it takes a long time to recover, and the process can make anyone feel just plain lonely.
All children need guidance and discipline—not as punishment, but to set reasonable limits. Remind your children of the consequences of their actions and provide meaningful rewards for desirable behavior. Consistency is important. Be consistent with enforcing the boundaries you set in your home. Inconsistency will confuse your child and give him the "ok" to push the limits if he/she thinks he/she can get away with it.
If you’ve just discovered your boyfriend or husband watching porn online, you may be feeling shock, anger, disappointment, betrayal, and more. You also may be confused about what this means for your marriage. Many women feel if their husband has turned to pornography it means he is no longer interested in her or no longer finds her attractive. This can take a toll on your self-esteem.