We’ve been told to “just be vulnerable” — but what if that advice is setting us up for heartache? The reality is, not everyone is telling the truth. People lie all the time, and their actions and body language often reveal more than their words ever will. In this episode, I unpack the problem with naïve vulnerability and why oversharing without discernment can leave you exposed to manipulation in dating, workplaces, and beyond. I break down the difference between healthy vulnerability and the sloppy kind, and use Internal Family Systems (IFS) to reveal how speaking from our wounded, child-like parts — instead of our grounded adult self — can trap us in subtle victimhood. If you’ve ever trusted too quickly, believed the wrong words, or blamed yourself for someone else’s bad behaviour, this conversation will help you sharpen your ability to read people — and protect your trust, boundaries, and wellbeing.