“You can’t hate yourself into healing.”
What does real change look like when you’re tired of starting over?
In this powerful (and hilarious) episode of The Unbreakable Podcast, Kait sits down with Alicia , a creator whose vulnerability and humor have inspired hundreds of thousands to rethink what self-improvement really means.
From hitting 400lbs to creating a viral online movement built on accountability and authenticity, Alicia proves that resilience isn’t born in perfection, it’s built in the messy middle.
Together, Kait and Alicia unpack the mindset behind sustainable transformation, why kindness is a superpower, and how to silence the shame voice that’s kept you stuck.
What you’ll learn:
-The psychology of “what-if” fear, and how to move forward anyway
-Why vulnerability fuels consistency more than motivation ever could
-The truth about “non-scale victories” and why they matter most
-How self-talk shapes your reality (and how to rewrite the script)
-The neuroscience of habit formation, and how to make change stick
-Why kindness isn’t weakness, it’s a neurological strength
-How empathy and humor can rewire shame into self-belief
Try this today (pick one):
Write one kind thing you’ll say to yourself daily this week.
List your non-scale victories, energy, confidence, small wins.
Reach out to someone on their journey and tell them what you admire.
Mentioned:
The Four Agreements – Don Miguel Ruiz
Relentless & Winning – Tim Grover
The Body Keeps the Score – Bessel van der Kolk
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In this Episode:
00:00 Non-scale victories and “what-ifs”
01:24 Alicia’s viral journey: from hidden to seen
03:40 Community, accountability, and the power of humor
07:22 Building confidence without comparison
10:45 Mindset over macros: why joy keeps you consistent
17:10 The cost of cruelty vs. the return on kindness
22:40 Empathy in leadership, fitness, and everyday life
27:55 Four Agreements and being impeccable with your word
34:00 Reframing failure as feedback
41:20 Why you’ll never see a U-Haul behind a hearse