There are people in the world who were once kids who grew up without the kind of parents you see on ‘90s sitcoms, kids whose parents abdicated all responsibility, who walked off the job, who just didn’t do the one thing they were supposed to have done. Danielle Henderson was one of those kids. She’s a grown-up now, and author of The Ugly Cry, a book that traces Danielle’s childhood as a Black girl in a very white town in upstate New York with a mother who was struggling with her own life’s disappointments. She and Nora talk about using humor to address trauma and the importance of foundational relationships. Wanna read the book? When you purchase from Apple Books or Bookshop.org, you help support our show! For book discussion guides and a community of Terrible bookworms just like you, join The Terrible Reading Club on Substack! It's free! Got a book you want to recommend? Send us a note at terriblereadingclub@feelingsand.co.  The Terrible Reading Club team is Nora McInerny, Claire McInerny, Megan Palmer, Marcel Malekebu, Kara Nesvig, Jordan Turgeon, and Michelle Plantan. Our upcoming reading list can be found here. Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. The transcript for this episode can be found here. Originally published on “Terrible, Thanks for Asking” on November 18th, 2021 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices