Grief comes in all shapes and sizes, be that anticipatory, or following the death of a child. In Rachel’s authentic and resonant conversation with Gabriella Walker, she reflects on how grief can be made more complex, and more difficult when the services she worked for failed to support her daughter and family in a way she needed. In one of our broadest episodes to date, we cover how it feels to work within a system you thought would be there to catch you but doesn’t, and how hard it is when you realise you’ve been failed by something you believe in. You can find out about the fantastic work Gabriella is doing to support families on her website https://irisfamilysupport.org We also talk about; bereavement and complex grief systems generated trauma how a universal health care system struggles even more when faced with complex disability the importance of self compassion Thanks to the lovely folk at Jiraffe for sponsoring this week's episode. You can find more about them and their work here. We’d love to hear from you – we love sharing stories, we love hearing how things are going, the good, the bad, the snotty-crying ugly. You can leave a message with us in a number of ways: Firstly you can leave a message using speakpipe here: SpeakpipeTSWU  (Please note calls need to be limited to 90 seconds) You can send us a voice note from your phone to our email address at tswupodcast@gmail.com Or, if the thought of hearing your own voice gives you ‘the ick’, then send us an email to tswupodcast@gmail.com Whatever way you choose to get in touch, we really want to hear your thoughts, views, musings, rants and confessions (we love a confession!) . Thanks for listening and being a part of our podcast community -It would make our day if you could like, follow and review the podcast wherever you listen.  We’re so happy that The Skies We’re Under is a free, independent podcast. Any sponsorship received is used to cover the costs of the production of episodes and compensate our valuable guests for their time. The hosts provide their time and efforts for free. They do, however, appreciate any offers of caffeination to keep them going – you can buy them a cuppa here…     Follow us on Instagram @BornatRightTime. Head to www.bornattherighttime.com to find a parent workshop or CPD-certified training for practitioners in communication, collaboration and personalised care with parents/carers.