Using Alcohol to Numb the Pain: How Self-Abandonment Keeps You Stuck

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The Secure Husband

M. Bruce Abbott, M.A, CPC

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A Secure Husband no longer seeks validation from his wife—he stands strong in self-worth, meets his own emotional needs, and leads with confidence and clarity. I’ve been where you are, and I’m here to help you break free from old patterns, reclaim your strength, and transform your marriage from the inside out.

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Using Alcohol to Numb the Pain: How Self-Abandonment Keeps You Stuck

The Secure Husband

15 minutes

1 month ago

Using Alcohol to Numb the Pain: How Self-Abandonment Keeps You Stuck

Do you reach for a drink to take the edge off? Do you tell yourself it’s “just to relax” — but deep down you know it’s about numbing? Many men use alcohol to escape feelings of shame, stress, and loneliness.

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explores how alcohol becomes less about celebration and more about self-abandonment. You’ll hear the story of one coaching client who realized he wasn’t addicted to alcohol — he was addicted to avoiding his pain. And you’ll learn how The Secure Husband Process can help you stop numbing, face your wounds, and lead yourself with calm strength.

What you’ll learn in this video:
✔️ Why alcohol becomes a coping tool for emotionally wounded men
✔️ How numbing is really about escaping shame, stress, and loneliness
✔️ The childhood roots of using avoidance as survival
✔️ How one husband stopped abandoning himself and started to heal
✔️ Practical steps to regulate emotions without turning to alcohol
✔️ Why facing your pain is the path to real strength and presence

You don’t need to shame yourself. You’re not weak — you’re wounded. But you don’t have to stay stuck. You can stop escaping and start leading with honesty, compassion, and strength.

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If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

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