This week on The Quiet Life Michael speaks with Gemma Perlin ⁠@gemma_perlin⁠, a leading UK behavioural change coach. In this episode we talk about why people pleasers have a constant need for control and a predictable sense of safety and how we can break the cycles of abuse that can be formed in some personal professional relationships. In this episode we talk about :

• The conscious vs. unconscious mind control of behaviours
• Common patterns like anxiety, people-pleasing, perfectionism
• Roots of people-pleasing in need for control/predictability
• Practical steps like a "disappointment journal"
• The Importance of self-awareness, boundaries and communication
• Self-soothing techniques you can use for stronger self-worth

Gemma Perlin is a leading UK behavioural change coach, know for her transformative 1:1 work and impactful workshops. Featured in Vogue, Elle, and Glamour, she has equipped clients to break free from limiting patterns and beliefs. Gemma's powerful toolkit equips individuals with the strategies to be able to live a life they really really want..⁠⁠⁠ You can find out more about Gemma on her website gemmaperlin.com ,You can also follow along with her on Instagram ⁠@gemma_perlin⁠⁠ For more conversations like this and to join our community visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠justbreatheproject.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and follow us on instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@justbreathe⁠⁠.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ And if you enjoyed this podcast, don’t forget to subscribe.