Relationships are the most beautiful, challenging and growth-producing venture there is. When we lean into them, they can become the doorway through which we come to know ourselves and another soul—and ultimately God—a little better. Yet even though we all feel that pull to connect, we shy away.
Now, supported by these wise teachings, we can learn to follow our heart and get the most out of our relationships, stepping more fully into life. The Pull podcasts address age-old tensions between men and women, between pleasure and frustration, and between sexuality and spirituality.
Once we liberate ourselves by learning to understand ourselves better, we’ll intuitively find the right people to share ourselves with in the right way.
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Relationships are the most beautiful, challenging and growth-producing venture there is. When we lean into them, they can become the doorway through which we come to know ourselves and another soul—and ultimately God—a little better. Yet even though we all feel that pull to connect, we shy away.
Now, supported by these wise teachings, we can learn to follow our heart and get the most out of our relationships, stepping more fully into life. The Pull podcasts address age-old tensions between men and women, between pleasure and frustration, and between sexuality and spirituality.
Once we liberate ourselves by learning to understand ourselves better, we’ll intuitively find the right people to share ourselves with in the right way.
There is a great cosmic pull in this world…The aim of this pull is to move us toward union…But if union is being looked at as a mental process or as a venture with an intangible God, then sorry to say, that’s not genuine union at all. No, there’s got to be real live actual contact…
In truth, life and pleasure are one. Said another way, we can’t live without pleasure…The cosmic plan rolls all this up into one goal: life, pleasure, contact and oneness. Because they’re all one and the same thing. So when pleasure through relationships is missing, there is a disturbance in our life force that comes from being in opposition to the cosmic plan…
We, each of us, oppose this pull out of the wrong thinking that giving into it means we’ll be swallowed whole…But by fearing and opposing this pull, we’re bucking the natural flow…To whatever degree we equate the life force with annihilation, we’re going to have a struggle on our hands…
This is the reason people hang onto the dualistic divide of the body and the spirit. We stamp the body bad, and then claim the denial of our very nature is right and good. Good grief…
When we can’t fully harness this powerful force, part of us moves towards others, accepting our bodily instincts and our basic nature. But another part backpedals, leading to deprivation, emptiness, meaninglessness and a sense of waste…the stronger our resistance to the pull, the more pain and problems we will have. It’s like somehow saying our own basic nature is in opposition to the divine evolutionary plan. What a colossal error…
But although we might block and oppose the pull, we can’t avoid it. It’s a master winch that just keeps on tugging…Usually there’s a slug of opposition, throwing a wrench into the works. Painful contact then ensues. What’s happening here is that the pleasure principle at one time—way back in childhood—got attached to a negative situation. Now, every experience of pleasure is accompanied by the activation of this unwanted negativity. This creates a pull toward contact—Onward!—coupled with fear of the truckload of crap that will come with it. Wait, reverse!...
It’s that last part that carries the stinger. It creates one of two fundamental reactions: either the desire to hurt, or the desire to be hurt…Remember, there’s no eliminating pleasure. But pleasure can be morphed into negative pleasure. Then the pleasure of contact will be associated with hurting or being hurt. Cripes…
We must not get caught thinking that this is who we are, that this is our deepest nature, that this is life. No, this is not the ultimate reality of our instinctual selves. It just may be where we are on the wheel right now…
We need to find the courage and honesty to face what needs facing. Then we can unwind our personal attitudes back to their constructive and trustworthy nature…Finding peace between the body and the soul is a natural by-product of self-realization.
Listen and learn more.
The Pull, Chapter 1: The Cosmic Pull Toward Union
Read Original Pathwork® Lecture: #149 Cosmic Pull Toward Union – Frustration
The Pull
Relationships are the most beautiful, challenging and growth-producing venture there is. When we lean into them, they can become the doorway through which we come to know ourselves and another soul—and ultimately God—a little better. Yet even though we all feel that pull to connect, we shy away.
Now, supported by these wise teachings, we can learn to follow our heart and get the most out of our relationships, stepping more fully into life. The Pull podcasts address age-old tensions between men and women, between pleasure and frustration, and between sexuality and spirituality.
Once we liberate ourselves by learning to understand ourselves better, we’ll intuitively find the right people to share ourselves with in the right way.
