My story of failure: Backing my parents SUV into our pastor’s truck. Emily K. Louis is a worthiness coach, wife, mother, and host of the Abundance Grace Podcast! Emily helps people confidently be themselves! She wants people to own their worth so they can stop feeling like they need to be strong and have it all together. She offers individual and group coaching. In today’s episode Emily talks about: - an unlikely worthiness coach - being annoyingly rule following - the “good” checklist - growing up under an abusive pastor - not working to prove her worth anymore - stepping into what God calls us into - getting past the pressure - The Pressure is Off - trying to handle the question with grace - grateful for where she is - mentored in a narrow box - a church that thought they were the only ones that had it right - being genuinely afraid of truth - being safe even though she’s wrong - finding mentors after almost wanting to quit - Gretchen H. as a mentor - borrowing belief from mentors until we own it ourselves - seeing what God has for someone before they do - the mental checklist that becomes a task list - not finding our identity in the place that it should be - the roller coaster that will burn us out - Lauren Dangle’s Song - You Say - constantly being aware of turning anything into a checklist - speaking the Gospel over herself daily - words having the power of life and death - recognizing patterns faster - laying new foundations - laying a new foundation takes work - story of mistake setting up childcare - not having the right support - the negative thought that came to her head - owning the mistake but not letting it be a story - not letting failures mean more than it should - making failures lighthearted - complimenting yourself for trying - “If beating yourself up was going to help you succeed, it would have worked already.” - goal to be on a TedX Stage - growing the Abundance Grace podcast - having four littles at home - perfecting what she already has - downplaying your hard and it not being healthy - praying for God to expand our capacity - the trap of comparison - comparing other people’s hard - easily bypassing our emotions - her struggle a couple of weeks ago - texting two people and sharing what was hard - which one do I text? Why not both? - we are worth taking care of - how does Emily recharge? - Sabbath being important and why it’s profound that it’s the tenth commandment - remembering - setting aside time and creating margin - going for long walks, talking to God, and journaling - not liking to be boxed in - The Gift of Being Yourself by David Benner - why she loves connecting with people - the podcast not being her identity