In this episode, Amber discusses her personal journey and evolving views on marriage, relationships, and monogamy as a happily divorced woman. She shares her early beliefs around love/relationships/marriage being equated to worthiness, wholeness, lovability, and the societal and systemic influences that reinforced these notions. She recounts her struggles with self-worth, especially as a black child in a PWIs, and the subsequent unhealthy relationships and toxic patterns that stemmed from these beliefs and insecurities.
The episode delves into Amber’s realizations over time and what she thinks about love and marriage now. She urgers listeners to understand that fulfilment doesn’t come from being in a relationship, it comes from the quality of the relationship you’re in and we have so much more control than we utilize to dictate the quality of our relationships. Amber emphasizes the importance of understanding personal needs, clear communication, and not settling for less than what you want, regardless of if you currently believe you deserve it or not.
She advocates for a broader perspective on love, highlighting that it can be abundant and found in various forms, not just within monogamous or romantic contexts. The goal is to encourage listeners to seek relationships that truly meet their needs without being confined by traditional societal expectations while working to eliminate the guilt and shame imposed when you don’t align with societal norms
TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Welcome to The Pleasure Priority Podcast
01:06 Personal Reflections on Marriage and Divorce
05:47 The Impact of Societal Expectations
11:59 Redefining Love and Relationships
23:24 Embracing New Perspectives on Marriage
26:43 Final Thoughts
RESOURCES:
How to be Happy in Any Relationship Quiz -https://www.ambertaylorcoaching.com/quiz
Work With Me -https://www.ambertaylorcoaching.com/workwithme
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