What happens when you come for a session with A Somatic Sex Educator? Join Ailsa for an informal chat about what to expect and what people come to see me for. For more info see my website www.pleasureforhealth.com

Join me as I chat with Leslie Costello, a certified Perinatal Psychotherapist and certified Bioenergetic Therapist about early bonding and how that affects our adult relationships. We discussed the enmeshment of the early infant and mother relationship, the shame that can come with this. We even touched on AI and how that might be impeding our relational maturity.  Leslie is the author of "Helping Mothers, Helping Babies: Somatic Perinatal Psychotherapy" a book designed to help talk therapists bring somatic tools into their sessions with mothers.  Links:  https://bookshop.org/p/books/helping-mothers-helping-babies-somatic-perinatal-psychotherapy-leslie-ann-costello/22519210?ean=9781739017057&next=t    or order from your local independent bookstore. It is also available at the big online booksellers.   Her blog is free on Substack:  https://pamola10.substack.com

Why do I have to talk about it? communication is key to good relationships but does it really require hours of discussion? Let’s dive into how and why talking is helpful and other options if talking is not your strong point. Find out more about me and my offerings on my website www.pleasureforhealth.com  

Desire mismatch. Let’s talk about what happens when two people have different levels of erotic desire. This could be due to personality differences or because of childbirth, illness or some other life event. How can the relationship stay alive and connected during this times? Join Ailsa live to find out more.

How do relationships act as a mirror for us in our own personal development and how do we know when to stand up for our own perspective? Join me for an exploration of the idea of "I", "you" and the "group" and if they can work together to further our journey towards Self. 

What is the Sacred Marriage within and more importantly how can we actually embody this? Let’s look at the reality of integrating opposing aspects of ourselves such as the conscious and unconscious parts of our Psyche.

In the beginning was Chaos who birthed Eros, Gaia and other gods and goddesses of the night, dreaming, darkness, the underworld. These qualities are necessary to experience 'Falling in Love' and surrendering to desire and passion. Join me for a discussion of this topic and follow me on Podbean or my website www.pleasureforhealth.com  

Join me as I talk about different types of stressors and how they affect our relationships. This model of looking at horizontal and vertical axes in our lives and what we might be bringing unconsciously into our present moment with loved ones is super helpful if you want to find more intimacy and depth. 

Co dependency is a pattern often passed on in family systems. We are recognized and acknowledged for only certain parts of ourselves and other parts are ignored or denied. This leads to a discrepancy with who we think we are and the reality of our Shadow aspects which still have power in our lives and relationships. Learning to see and recognize these hidden parts of ourselves by being 'triggered' is actually a necessary vehicle for personal growth. 

Presence is the foundation for Intimacy. Join me as we talk about what presence is and how we can cultivate more presence from both ourselves and our loved ones. Being physically present is not enough, when we are fully present with someone we listen deeply, notice subtle emotions and respond with authenticity. 

What are the roles of tension and relaxation in our ability to feel and experience pleasure? Join me for a discussion of the roles of both of these aspects and how they can work together to expand our sense of pleasure in both mind and body.   

From the perspective of the Celtic Triple Goddess - the Maiden the Mother and the Crone, how do we sense our vitality? Using the lens of our sexuality, our spirituality and our creativity we gain the full spectrum of our own life force. Join me for a discussion and exploration of this framework of Self Development. to see more of me and my work, check out www.pleasureforhealth.com

Why do we seek to control others or the world around us? Often it stems from a fear or anxiety that is based in our own Psyche but we don't want to deal with it in ourselves so we use the effort of controlling others to try and feel better. This kind of control or manipulation can look like blaming, being critical or shutting others down. If we understand more about ourselves and where these controlling impulses come from, we can be honest and open in relationships. Join me for a discussion on this topic.  find more about me at www.pleasureforhealth.com 

Are you tired of constantly putting others' needs before your own, only to feel unappreciated and emotionally drained? Discover how the seemingly harmless habit of people-pleasing can lead to a loss of authenticity, emotional exhaustion, and a blurred sense of self, and learn how to break free from this cycle to reclaim your life and relationships! We will discuss also how People Pleasing could be a positive attribute when coming from a place of integrity and Care for others.   

Aging has profound effects on many aspects of our health and wellbeing. Particularly around our sexuality and relational wellness, aging can be a doorway to profoundly shift our way of being in our body and with our partner/s. Join me for a discussion around erectile dysfunction in all of its various forms.  find more info at www.pleasureforhealth.com  

Dr. Tina is a licensed sex and gender feminist psychotherapist, best-selling author, researcher, emeritus Professor and media personality whose expertise spans sex therapy, spiritual intimacy, parenting, medicine and social justice. Join Ailsa and special guest Dr. Tina in this discussion of Shame and how it affects our ability to parent our kids effectively and in a healthy way.  Dr. Tina can be found on Instagram @DrTinaShameless Her published works include: 'Sex, God and the Conservative Church' and 'Shameless Parenting' available on Amazon and most booksellers.  You can find out more about Ailsa at www.pleasureforhealth.com  

Many great Philosopher’s and Sages have wrestled with the concept of desire. But what is it and what purpose does it serve for us as human beings? In all truth I will probably not answer these questions any more fully than they have already been answered but let’s ponder some thoughts and feelings around desire together and see where it leads us.  Find out more on my website www.pleasureforhealth.com  

I have been weighing this thought recently that birth control options still give a huge amount of responsibility to the female in a relationship to 'take care' of things so physical intimacy can be enjoyed without risk of pregnancy. Is this actually allowing more freedom to us or does this mean the effects are often landing on only one person to make really difficult choices? Join me for a discussion of the pros and cons and find out more about my work at www.pleasureforhealth.com

Why do Narcissists make me feel so bad?    As humans, we have an innate desire to connect in community; find our pack, so to speak. A major part of this communal experience is the feeling of co-regulation with others. It connects us on this physiological level through our nervous system.    On our own, we have ways to Self regulate if we are stressed that might include taking a deep breath or exercising.  Self-regulation is a process of managing one’s thoughts, emotions, and behaviours in response to external and internal stimuli. Co-regulation, on the other hand, is a process where two people work together to manage their emotions. In order to co-regulate successfully, each individual needs to be aware of their own emotions and be able to communicate them with their partner. Listen in as I discuss why Narcissistic people have trouble with co-regulation and even self-regulation. 

As a Bodyworker I have seen many examples of how disease and dysfunction has a deeper meaning to the person however I never put that together with sexual issues with our genitals in the same way, especially with the male genital. Join me for a discussion of the existential meaning of our genitals.  www.pleasureforhealth.com