Trauma, but lol. I’m not a mental health professional, but my guests are, and every other episode, I coach a listener through real-life struggles.
Why does healing feel so damn hard? Why do we keep chasing emotionally unavailable people, doubting our self-worth, or feeling stuck in the same cycles no matter how much we try to “just move on”? And most importantly… how do we actually change?
Hey, I’m Remy, and on this podcast, we’re diving into all things healing, transformation, and self-worth, without the clinical jargon or the sugarcoating. I bring therapists, coaches, and mental health professionals together to break down different healing modalities (think somatic work, CBT, polyvagal theory, and more), so you can find what actually works for you.
And because healing isn’t just about theory, every other episode, I coach a listener through their real-life struggles—no certifications, just years of deep personal work, conversations with experts, and a whole lot of lived experience. Think of it like a heart-to-heart with a friend who isn’t afraid to call you out (with love).
If you’re tired of feeling stuck and you’re ready to put yourself at the center of your own story, this podcast is for you. Hit play, grab a bevie (or a journal, or both), and let’s figure this out together.
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Trauma, but lol. I’m not a mental health professional, but my guests are, and every other episode, I coach a listener through real-life struggles.
Why does healing feel so damn hard? Why do we keep chasing emotionally unavailable people, doubting our self-worth, or feeling stuck in the same cycles no matter how much we try to “just move on”? And most importantly… how do we actually change?
Hey, I’m Remy, and on this podcast, we’re diving into all things healing, transformation, and self-worth, without the clinical jargon or the sugarcoating. I bring therapists, coaches, and mental health professionals together to break down different healing modalities (think somatic work, CBT, polyvagal theory, and more), so you can find what actually works for you.
And because healing isn’t just about theory, every other episode, I coach a listener through their real-life struggles—no certifications, just years of deep personal work, conversations with experts, and a whole lot of lived experience. Think of it like a heart-to-heart with a friend who isn’t afraid to call you out (with love).
If you’re tired of feeling stuck and you’re ready to put yourself at the center of your own story, this podcast is for you. Hit play, grab a bevie (or a journal, or both), and let’s figure this out together.
Want to be coached or get a birth chart or tarot reading? Go here: https://calendly.com/workwithremy
Literally romantic obsession SUCKS. The longing is so intense, and there's no way to satiate it. In this epi, we get into how your unmet childhood needs are feeding your limerence, how we work with them, and why self-love is both the key AND just the beginning.
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Anxiety isn't just about your thoughts, it's about whether or not you see *YOURSELF* as capable enough to handle life (OOF!). In this episode, I get into this and SO much more with anxiety expert Dr. Stephanie Lopez (you can check out her FREE training for ditching anxiety https://www.brave-method.com/anxiety (here)).
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In this epi, we're getting into the symptoms of growing up without a parent who supported and hyped you up or even hugged you—it can show up allll over your life—AND we're getting into how we heal. (Don't worry—it's a huge heartache, but we're starting small.)
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NBD just going through life feeling like you're always the problem because you weren't treated like you were good enough to be heard, seen, respected, or loved as a kid! In this episode, psychotherapist https://kellylewislmft.com/ (Kelly Lewis) joins me to get into everything from neglect and not feeling good enough, anxious attachment and not feeling good enough, conditional love and feeling like you have to earn approval to be good enough, social factors like fatphobia, homophobia, racism, and sexism and not feeling good enough, and even the intersection of perfectionism, growth and fixed mindsets, and imposter syndrome and not feeling good enough. And ofc, we go deep on how to heal.
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Are you feeling like you're always on the brink of a panic attack while a government of racist, sexist, xenophobic, homophobic oligarchs squeezes every last ounce of democracy out of our country? Then this one's for you.
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Healing after a breakup suucckkks—the grief, the anger, the fear. In this episode, I sit down with somatic practioner https://www.laurieejames.com/ (Laurie James) to talk about The 4 E's (we especially love "expel"), self-compassion post-breakup, and even breakups with friends and family.
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A lot of families don't take sibling abuse seriously—behavior they would never accept from a bully at school, they completely gloss over when it's happening at home. How do we heal from that trauma? And when it continues into adulthood, can we even mend the relationship with our sibling? In this episode, I coach Jackie through these questions, letting go of what isn't working so that she can reclaim her authentic self and integrate what was lost along the way.
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Does your internal monologue ever sound like, "I'll never get better," "I'll never have the life I want," "I'll never fall in love"? Then this one's for you, baby! Learned helplessness is when we learn (often in abusive households growing up) that we don't have any control over the harm being done to us, so we just stop trying. We basically learn to be helpless. In this episode, somatic marriage and family therapist https://www.somatopsyche.com/ (Katrina Foster )joins me to talk through how learned helplessness impacts our lives and how we heal from the bottom up.
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After a sexual assault, you often spiral into a hole you feel you'll never come out of. In this episode, Rima writes in to ask for help with the feeling that she will be never the person she was before she was assaulted.
For clarity's sake, the phrase "sexual assault" is an umbrella term that applies to many experiences, including but not limited to rape. If you or someone you know has been sexually assaulted, you can reach out to RAINN at 800.656.HOPE (4673).
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So much of what we think about ourselves and the world is A. not helpful, and B. operating on automatic without our even knowing about it. If we think we're not good enough, not worthy of love, always going to be broke, never going to feel happy again, etc. etc., we're letting self-defeating beliefs run the show of our lives. In this episode, I'm joined by therapist and author https://belmontwellness.com/about-me/ (Judith Belmont) to talk about how we work with those self-defeating beliefs, so they don't work us.
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People keep telling Maggie to write gratitude lists to help her while she's struggling emotionally. But every time she tries to do it, she feels worse and sometimes even cries, which makes her feel like there's something wrong with her. Is there a part of her that's resisting happiness? or is there a problem with gratitude?
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Anyone else feel like they're not good enough for people to stand up for them? Anyone else get a hit of unworthiness when people don't have your back? In this episode, LCSW https://www.sydneylindentree.com/ (Sydney Linden) joins to talk about the different ways it can look to go unprotected in childhood, what core beliefs it creates for us in adulthood, and what it looks like to heal.
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Chloe's father is a malignant narcissist, but now that he's dying, she's deeply wrestling with her decision to go no-contact. How can she truly be a loving, forgiving person if she refuses to be in contact with him? In this episode, we talk about healing the wounds of being in relationship with a narcissistic parent and redefining what "love" means when it's time to go no-contact.
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We think of empathy as always being a good thing, but like everything else, too much of a good thing can be toxic. I call "toxic empathy" (not a clinical term, BTW, just my term), the phenomenon that occurs when we empathize with others to the point that we can't feel our *own* feelings. We can't feel anger when people hurt us, or we order a cocktail we don't want because our friend doesn't want to drink alone, etc. etc. It robs us of our boundaries and our autonomy, often leading to self-abandonment. In this episode, I welcome marriage and family associate therapist https://www.reneeshaneetate.com/ (Renee Tate) back to the pod to talk about how it works and how we heal.
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Teal grew up being super parentified by her addicted mother. The house was dirty, there wasn't food, her mom was at the bars, and Teal was in charge of her siblings. In this episode, we dig into the self-limiting beliefs around self-worth that resulted from Teal's struggle (the people pleasing, resentments, and lack of self-knowing) and look at what it means to heal.
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A lack of encouragement in childhood leaves a deep mark on us—it can impact our sense of self-worth, of safety, of resiliance—you name it. Sometimes it's easy to see that we weren't encouraged, but for many of us, we don't even realize that it's at the root of many of our struggles. In this episode, I welcome writer and therapist https://solastatherapy.com/ (Solasta McIntyre ) back to the show to talk us through how a lack of encouragement impacts children's developing brains, what the repercussions look like in adulthood, and how we heal.
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Trauma, but lol. I’m not a mental health professional, but my guests are, and every other episode, I coach a listener through real-life struggles.
Why does healing feel so damn hard? Why do we keep chasing emotionally unavailable people, doubting our self-worth, or feeling stuck in the same cycles no matter how much we try to “just move on”? And most importantly… how do we actually change?
Hey, I’m Remy, and on this podcast, we’re diving into all things healing, transformation, and self-worth, without the clinical jargon or the sugarcoating. I bring therapists, coaches, and mental health professionals together to break down different healing modalities (think somatic work, CBT, polyvagal theory, and more), so you can find what actually works for you.
And because healing isn’t just about theory, every other episode, I coach a listener through their real-life struggles—no certifications, just years of deep personal work, conversations with experts, and a whole lot of lived experience. Think of it like a heart-to-heart with a friend who isn’t afraid to call you out (with love).
If you’re tired of feeling stuck and you’re ready to put yourself at the center of your own story, this podcast is for you. Hit play, grab a bevie (or a journal, or both), and let’s figure this out together.
Want to be coached or get a birth chart or tarot reading? Go here: https://calendly.com/workwithremy
