Have you ever looked at someone’s life and thought, “They have it all”?
Success, wealth, and admiration—but what if behind the perfect image lies deep personal turmoil? Today’s guest, Derek Newborn, knows this reality all too well.
A successful fitness model and entrepreneur, Derek seemed to be living the dream. But beneath the surface, he was battling unresolved childhood trauma, self-sabotage, and a growing sense of emptiness that no amount of external success could fill. His journey led him down a destructive path of lying, cheating, and pushing away the very people who loved him the most. It all came to a head in a moment of crisis that forced him to take radical ownership of his life and transform from the inside out.
In this raw and deeply insightful conversation, Derek shares his story of breaking free from self-sabotage, facing his wounds, and turning his pain into purpose. We explore the cost of avoiding our truth, the power of taking responsibility, and how real healing begins when we stop running from ourselves. Whether you’ve struggled with your own self-sabotage or have been affected by someone else's, this episode will give you the tools and perspective to move forward with clarity and strength.
In this episode, we discuss:
Chapters:
00:00 Introduction: The Illusion of Success
02:50 Derek’s Story: A Life That Looked Perfect
07:02 The Patterns of Self-Sabotage
09:50 Childhood Trauma and Its Long-Term Impact
13:22 Success Driven by Avoidance
17:50 The Breaking Point: Losing Everything
21:11 Rock Bottom and a Suicide Attempt
24:43 The Mental Hospital and a Wake-Up Call
30:29 Finding Purpose and the Journey to Healing
34:27 Helping Women Avoid Toxic Patterns
40:50 The Difference Between Coaching Men and Women
44:01 Breaking the Cycle: Advice for Listeners
49:59 Closing Thoughts: Turning Pain into Purpose
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Connect with Derek:
Website: https://go.dereknewborn.com/themetabolismrevup
Check out his website and his 2025 Newborn Mentality 3-Day Retreat!
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/derek.newborn
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dereknewborn/
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