✨ #JustLikeYou is a weekly episode where we interview different types of different third culture kids who are #JustLikeYou on sex, intimacy, and how to navigate your romantic and sexual lives.
👯♀️ This week we interview Valeska who was born in Aruba and raised in the Netherlands since she was 15 years old. Valeska has been with LVMH, Nike, G-star and is currently a marketing manager at Netflix. On the private side of her life, she's been together with her Polish fiancé, Mata, for over 10 years now and just became a mom to her newborn son Gabrielle.
🤱 Valeska shares sexual wellness tips for baby mamas ánd baby daddies, her 40 days of Chinese medicine-inspired confinement postpartum ritual and why every upcoming mother should try it, and her secret sauce to thrive in a 10-year relationship. 💬 V's favorite self-love quote: "Never lose yourself"
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Our #bigsisteradvice talk with Valeksa:
01:38 How old were you when you started masturbating and was this in Aruba?
02:32 How does an orgasm feel for you and how old were you when you had your first orgasm? A release and like you can breathe again.
03:27 The one thing you learned about sexuality growing up in Aruba and The Netherlands?
04:29 How have you managed a 10-year relationship? What are your relationship essentials?
05:00 What cultural and personal differences do you experience in your relationship and how do you cope with that?
08:46 Why did you follow the Chinese Medicine routine of 40 days of confinement, staying inside, eating warm food, and adhering to these Chinese rituals postpartum? And do you see similarities to your Dominican Republic heritage?
10:35 Would you recommend the Chinese routine of postpartum confinement to others?
11:28 What amazed you the most about confinement for yourself?
12:00 Were you able to cater to your own intimate wellness postpartum? Valeska opens up about being a "feeding machine" as a new mom.
12:34 How do you take care of yourself postpartum as a new mom and how do you cater to your own mental and physical wellness?
14:50 Did you have intercourse after pregnancy, did intercourse postpartum feel differently?
15:44 Did you have intercourse during pregnancy? How do you feel about yourself during your pregnancy?
16:02 "Self-care" through self-pleasure during pregnancy
16:50 Being horny during pregnancy
17:21 Was your baby daddy ok with masturbation and sex toys during pregnancy?
17:52 How does your partner feel with you bringing sex toys into partner play?
19:20 What have you learned throughout the years and what's your biggest piece of advice for other third culture kids out there?
20:21 What is your advice for baby mommas and baby daddies on sexual wellness and sex after pregnancy?
21:25 What is your favorite self-love quote?