Cause I'm really tired of the subtle shade

Your love should cost a thing! Ladies, some of this behavior I’ve been seeing lately? It’s giving poor pus*y management, and I hate to say it, but it’s true. It’s clear we’ve lost the plot. Too many women are giving access without any standards, requirements, or return. I’m not saying he has to fund your whole lifestyle, but you should be supported, considered, and cared for in every way that matters. Men know who they can play with and who they can’t and if you’re not setting boundarie...

I brought on my friend Imani Mitchell to unpack the Met Gala, from the fashion highs to the branding lows. She’s the friend I’m always texting during red carpets, analyzing who got it right and who completely missed, so it only made sense to bring our unfiltered convos to The Next Era podcast. Imani walked us through the theme of Black dandyism and tailored elegance, while I connected the dots between the red carpet and real-world brand strategy. With my background in marketing and entertainm...

Whew, coming to terms with the fact that I might be the problem somestimes? Not fun, but necessary. I had to sit myself down and get real about the ways I’ve been showing up, being mean, overly opinionated, not minding my business, and lowkey dodging accountability by overextending grace to myself. I’m breaking down how I recognized those patterns, how guilt can sneak in and distort the truth, and what I’m doing to move different. I’ve been looking at how I show up in all my...

We've got some new listeners, hey y'all! I share my personal journey, starting with my very first job in the big apple at Black Enterprise and moving to New York on a tight budget while navigating early career challenges. I open up about my struggles with depression and therapy during this time, sharing an honest perspective on mental health in the workplace. I also talk about how I built my network, landed jobs, and continually worked on improving my skills to stand out. Finally,...

In this episode, I dive deep into my haircare journey with my stylist Noel New York owner of Noel New York Salon & Boutique. From the importance of protein and moisture balance to the controversial topic of using bonnets, Noel sheds light on why it’s crucial to understand your hair’s needs. We also talk about the challenges of finding the right stylist and why building a long-term relationship matters more than just looking for a quick, aesthetic result. Stay Connected IG: itsraetoy...

Y'all I spent the block badddd this weekend! I’ve been hitting up some old tings to see where they’re at, and honestly, it’s been eye-opening. This episode is all about reflecting on past relationships and why going back isn’t always a bad thing. It’s key to check in with people who’ve actually grown, especially if you’re trying to figure out how you’ve grown too. You gotta be open to hearing the tough stuff sometimes and use it to figure out what you want next time. In the end, i...

I just have to take a second to say, I’m really proud of myself! It’s been a wild ride the last couple of months, but now I can see how far I’ve come and I’ve truly been feeling like that girl. I’ve been working on shrinking my circle, removing unnecessary connections, and detoxing from social media. It’s been so freeing—now I’m more in control of my energy, and I’m finally in a place where I'm at peace. Honestly, creating a more intimate, real-life connection with the people who ...

Just landed from Jamaica and I had to hop on real quick and tell y'all about the trip + to follow up on the last episode, My Man, My Man, My Man. I touch on my saying "it’s strict around here." I remind everyone not to take everything I say too seriously, and give a sneak peek of what’s coming up next. Stay Connected IG: itsraetoyou Tik Tok: itsraetoyou

Many people talk about getting out of the U.S. after political drama, but Chandell actually got TF out ASAP. In this episode, North Carolina A&T and Harvard grad Chandell Stone reflects on how American politics and racial injustices influenced her decision to leave. She describes how living abroad has allowed her to operate outside of an “oppressed class,” offering a fresh perspective on identity as a Black woman. Chandell discusses the stark contrast in safety, quality of life, and da...

To be honest, I stay in celebrities' business— because it’s my entertainment since I don’t watch reality TV! I'm chittin' and chattin' off the dome this epi—starting with the Watch Jazzy and Cam Newton drama, I’m genuinely worried. I touch on Megan Thee Stallion’s documentary and it hit hard—especially because I’ve had my own rough experience with the justice system. Then there’s Mariah the Scientist canceling her show for Young Thug, and Kamala Harris killing it in her campaign strateg...

I’m back with a fresh episode after a surprising month away! My downloads have shot up, and I’m curious about all the new listeners—but welcome to The Next Era Podcast. On the 28th episode we chit chat about the importance of investing in ourselves and how my perspective on success has evolved. Join me as we explore how to set meaningful goals and take steps toward achieving them, because sometimes you truly have to “Pay to Play.” Don't forget to tell a friend, to tell a friend ...

On the 27th episode of The Next Era podcast, I reflect on personal growth, I explore how understanding that everyone is evolving can ease the pressure we put on ourselves and others. I also share techniques I use to question why I’m reacting strongly to certain situations, which helps me stay grounded and not let ego dictate my emotions. I also share my thoughts on the recent White House visit, expressing skepticism about the tokenism of including people of color without meaningful change...

I kick things off by introducing a new segment "What's Going On In Life" discussing some recent events including Dame Dash’s dental issues and the drama surrounding Mielle hair products. I also cover Beyoncé’s snub at the Country Music Awards, which felt particularly racist. When it comes to the debate, I highlight Kamala Harris's strong performance and notable clap-backs and delve into Trump’s controversial remarks and my mixed feelings about both candidates. Despite my doubts about real ...

I’m back with a new episode after a busy few weeks, including picking up my nephew Rome and juggling birthday festivities. This episode is a recap of my birthday weekend in Houston, where I mixed close friends with new faces, had some fun recording a song, and faced a few hiccups, like needing to leave a day party early and dealing with someone being upset. I also discuss the difference between friends who need hand-holding and those who are self-led. I share what I learned from the experienc...

So, Caresha Please is back, and I’m giving you my raw thoughts before I even watch it, then I circle back after watching the episode with my reaction. Caresha’s rebranding and the intense scrutiny she faces are tough because people are brutal. I’m proud she’s fighting to keep her career going, even with all the drama. More stuff might come out eventually, but for now, she’s seizing her moment to speak her truth and share her "experience." My predictions about City Girls in previous e...

In this episode, I discuss my elaborate beauty routine, from the top of my head to the tips of my toes, explaining how I’ve seen amazing results by investing in high-quality products and taking care of my appearance. I dive into my experiences with natural hair, my skincare regimen, and how I manage my eczema with both traditional and holistic methods. I also talk about the products I use, from Lanza and Ecru shampoo to OSEA and Skinceuticals for my face, and how I’m careful about what I ...

In this podcast episode, I reflect on the complexities of friendships as an adult, drawing parallels to a "board of friends" where each person occupies a distinct space based on the depth and nature of our connection. I emphasize the importance of recognizing gaps in your friend board and seeking out new connections to fill those gaps. Furthermore, I discuss the concept of firing friends when necessary, asserting that it's okay to set boundaries and end friendships that no longer serve me...

I'm back after a week off, I was low-key hoping ya'll didn't notice my absence. Between Hurricane Beryl and some traveling, it's been a crazy! I give a shoutout to my man for tapping into his Boy Scout skills during the power outage from the storm; he's definitely earned some points. I know I'll be good in the apocalypse. Being off social media has been easier than expected; I've been more present in real life. Can't wait to keep the episodes coming and dive into new topics. Stay Connec...

I openly confess my addiction to the internet and social media, admitting that I haven't intentionally taken a break EVER. I reflect on how I constantly scroll through apps like Instagram and TikTok, feeling like I'm living in a digital bubble rather than in the real world. Watching the show "Three Body Problem" on Netflix made me see social media as an alternate reality, prompting me to decide to take a break. Despite my addiction, I plan to use social media minimally for promoting my pod...