Have you ever felt like you lose yourself in relationships? Where you become so focused on being everything and being the "good girlfriend/wife/partner" that you stop doing the things YOU want to do?

And then in sex you have no idea what it is YOU like because you've been so focused on pleasing your partner?

Are you definitely a chronic people-pleaser and know you need to break out of it?

Babe, this episode was meant for you!

I sat down with friend and colleague Lizandra, from New Frame Therapy to talk about topics close to our hearts: The connection between your attachment style, trauma, and how it impacts your love life and sexual happiness.

We covered:

• Understanding the Attachment-Sex connection: Your attachment style doesn't just affect your relationships-- it fundamentally shapes your sexual experiences.
• How anxious attachment manifests as disconnection from your body and desires.
• Why most heterosexual couples follow restrictive "socio-sexual scripts" that prioritize male pleasure.
• How to break free from these patterns and create authentic sexual experiences.
• Why learning to recognize your body's signals of comfort and discomfort is essential for both healthy relationships and fulfilling sex.
• Giving yourself permission to want
• Why many women struggle to even identify what they want, sexually and otherwise.
• How to give yourself permission to have desires and communicate them effectively.
• Before expecting mind-blowing sex, start with rebuilding non-sexual pleasure in your life.
• Building your "pleasure muscles" and how everyday joy translates to the bedroom.
• Why "Low Libido" is misleading-- it can be a symptom of deeper attachment issues and disconnection from self.
• Breaking out of people-pleasing in the bedroom
• Understanding our cultural conditioning as women and the impossible expectations to be both "good girls" and "sex kittens."
• Simple techniques to rebuild safety, establish healthy boundaries, and reclaim your pleasure potential.

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How to contact Lizandra:

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Credits:

Produced and Hosted by: Lucy Rowett (aka moi!)

Cover Art by: Lucy Rowett (also moi!)

Music by: Tom M at Filmstro