Sometimes sexual fantasies get a bad wrap. In tantra, spirituality, therapy, and the embodiment world. This is why I was so excited for this interview with Artemisia de Vine to thoroughly debunk myths about fantasies, and why they are actually the key to your wholeness. Because what if your sexual fantasies were the bridge to your sexual liberation and spiritual growth too?
Listen to this episode if you've ever felt ashamed of your fantasies or worried it was because you hadn't "healed" enough.
In this episode we covered:
Ranting about tantra and conscious sexuality folk on fantasies
When therapists accidentally pathologize sexual fantasies
Myths about our fantasies and what they mean
What’s wrong with us and needs fixing + what are the inherent paradoxes of sex
Sexual fantasies are genius stories to help the ego let go
Overcoming the paradoxes of sexuality
Our shadows to wholeness and integration
What we think of the term “conscious”
The value of embodiment practices in reclaiming sexuality
Why your mind is not the enemy
Why being in sexual fantasy does not go against “spiritual” sexuality
When you cut off the mind you cut off a part of your sexual self
Good girl-itis
The role of the ego
“If I just did enough work, I wouldn’t need that fantasy”
Owning what you want in the first place
Playing with the paradox
Sexual fantasies as a doorway into us
If you feel like you have to be embodied
You should only have “high vibe" fantasies!
What we fantasise about versus what our real life values and wants are
Sexual fantasies are not meant to be instructions.
Celeb swoon technique
The 3 paradoxes of sexuality and why they are all correct:
Your ego and your desire
What you need and what your lover needs
What is best for the individual and what is best for the collective
“Sexual fantasies are not meant to be instruction manuals of behaviour in the outside world. They are absolutely freaking genius manuals to show you how to change your internal state through consensual play and take exactly where you need to go, because there's no one who knows your own mind better than you do. Understanding your own sexual fantasies and what they really mean and how you can trigger those paradoxes inside of yourself in your real life sex, that's going to take you where you want to go.”
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