In this episode, Kadam Adam and Buddhist monk Gen Doryning discuss how conflict can become a pivotal time for achieving real success. They both share relatable stories of conflict that helped them to change their reactions and eventually to transform difficult relationships into ones that made them better people. Gen Doryning explains how easy it is for conflict to make us blind to the other person, only seeing them through our own painful feelings. They discuss how having the confidence to view difficult people in a different light, not only makes it possible to change the situation but also has a very positive impact on our lives. For anyone struggling with conflict in any situation, this podcast will inspire you to deal with it better and come out of it a better person. 00:00 Intro 00:21 A story of conflict 07:03 Change your mind and reality changes 11:43 Conflict makes us blind 15:20 Controlling one's feelings to resolve problems 18:10 Be strong in conflict 21:35 Difficulties transform us 31:23 Knowing people change, we change 33:35 Bring out the best in others 37:00 Connect with other's realities to dissolve painful feelings 45:56 Becoming a better person because of difficulties 49:54 The secret of self-esteem Book references Universal Compassion: https://kadampa.org/book/universal-compassion Gen Kelsang Dornying is the Resident Teacher in Kadampa Meditation Center Leeds https://www.meditationinleeds.org/ The participants of these podcasts are practicing meditation according to the New Kadampa Tradition, which has over a thousand meditation centers worldwide. See more https://kadampa.org/ WANT MORE? Find a meditation center near you https://kadampa.org/nkt-center-search/?lang=en Listen to teaching clips: youtube.com/nktikbu https://open.spotify.com/show/5QPCFEyZz74nOHZbQr1B4z Subscribe to get notifications of new videos. Follow the Modern Buddhism Podcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/modernbuddhismpodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/modernbuddhismpodcast/ TIkTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@modernbuddhismpodcast Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7lgQNhbjMGoHOxBnjkfmK4 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/519b6d69-b6ed-46b2-ab56-ebaf59adf96e/the-modern-buddhism-podcast #modermbuddhismpodcast #buddhism #pain #painful #painfulmoments #injury #alone #anime #heartbroken #painmanagement #recovery #healthylifestyle #invisibleillness #spoonie #therapy #narutoshippuden #depressed #conflict #conflictresolution #relationships #communication #conflictmanagement #mentalhealth #divorce