"Victimhood mindset"
When we experience mental unwellbeing, we often view ourselves as the victim of our circumstances. We see ourselves as powerless, that there is nothing we can do about our situation, and that we have no choice in what we say or how we respond to others.

The “victim drama triangle” (Karpman, 1968)

This psychological and social model of human interaction (used in transactional analysis and psychotherapy) states that when we see ourselves as the helpless victim of our situation, there are usually 3 roles involved:

1. The victim - "poor me" (hopeless, powerless)
2. The persecutor - "this is your fault" (blaming, critical, superior)
3. The rescuer - "poor you, let me help you" (enabler, keeps victim dependent)

Here is the catch: no one ever views themselves as the perpetrator. In our own eyes, we are either the victim or the rescuer. 

So the next time you view that someone is being unfair to you, take a step back and recognize that THEY are also viewing themselves as victim of this situation as well.